MOONDOG - a question, if I may

[emkana]

ds has 50 db hearing loss/glue ear and is supposed to get a temporary hearing aid or maybe grommets, we don't know yet.

MIL and dh are very dismissive saying "but he understands us/follows basic instructions, how can he have hearing loss"

I'm not so sure, considering his speech is so poor.

Can you throw the light on that particular question?

THANK YOU

Ah, was that your question earleir re temp. aid?

I think it is a very wise idea.
Conductive hearing loss (as oppsed to sensori-neural) is closely associated with poor language development. As it is by nature fluctuating, arguably it can be worse than having a s/n hearing loss which remains constant.

Remember that language is supported by lots and lots of additional cues such as gesture,context,facial expression and so on which of course help enormously but often do not assist the child in comprehending the language heard, and the language alone.

Ignore the family elders is my advice and go for it.

Hope this makes sense.

I think I understand, not sure how I will condense it into a sentence for MIL when she goes on about him "understanding every word, every word I tell you"

How about
'Are you an audiologist? Did you train secretly in between weekly trips to the supermarket and watering the daffodils? No? Right then, snout out woman'

Or something similar.

Very common for grandparents not to 'get' stuff unfortunately.

Put it this way. Even if it doesn't help, you have coverd all bases and that is important for both him and you.

Glue ear is one of commonest reasons for poor lang. development so only right that this is addressed.

Exactly what I thought, I'm getting at least dh to agree to "can't hurt to try it"

That's the spirit!
Let us know how you get on ,won't you?
When is it being fitted?
You wont even see it with all his gorgeous long hair.

Will post, definitely!
We are waiting for an appointment (bit of a theme in this house, waiting for appointments).

I just hope he won't rip it out. Am hoping that he will notice that it helps and then be willing to have it in!

How about buying toy ones for teddy or doll and asking audiologist to fit those to?? Slip them to him/her quietly

Great idea, thanks!

Hi emkana! DD has the same Db score as your DS, has bilateral glue ear and has been wearing a bone conductor hearing aid since Sept...

I agree with MD. Kids can be amazingly clever at figuring out what you want from anything other than the language - just picking things up from the daily routine - i.e. if you pick up your bag and coat, his shoes are the next thing to go on. I would go for the "amazingly clever" line with your MIL to explain why he's so good at doing what you want whilst having hearing problems

Yes TC, you are right.
Kids with special needs of various sorts are amazingly clever at circumventiong or hiding their needs. I am not just saying this in a gushing patronising way,I really mean it. Even after 12 years as a SALT, the ingenuity of those I come across amazes me.