Ds upset at other children laughing at dd

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God I really feel upset today. Mil took my 2 to the park and they were getting an icecream. Dd has a habit of fingers in the ears and talking to herself. Ds noticed 2 older boys saying look at that saddo and he came home so upset.
Dd is 8 and has aspergers and ds is 10.
I just feel really fed up today. Things just seem to be getting worse.

I agree with TotalChaos. Before the last year of primary school a lot of children play the same games, so if someone is racing roudn the playground at five and is racing round the playground at 9, who's going to bat an eyelid? But when other girls are getting into groups and starting to talk amongst themselves, when the dynamic of interaction and peer relationships change, but a girl doesn't understand this, doesn't know to at least try and pretend she's interested in the things they're talking about, then things get harder. After that, it's a move to secondary school, struggling with all the changes, the increase in numbers and the resultant aural and visual confusion that presents. Not being to organise, not being able to remember things, not having any choice about so many things.
But then when adulthood and independence comes, in some ways that can make things easier. I still have the same sensory issues, the same perceptual differences, the same problems with initiating and expressing, but I have greater choice in things. I can avoid more situations which stress me out, I have greater control over things and I have more self esteem.

Tclanger ~ it's so hard to hear isn't it but I would have said the same to you! Forgot to tell you before my dd is in a language unit and has been since she was 4!
edam ~ yes we have talked and I know ds felt like hitting them but I dont want that. I said for him to walk away. They are the ones with the problem.
Deux ~ thank you. It is helpful to hear from someone who knows how ds is feeling.
Ds doesn't want to go to young carers but actually loves the sn swimming as his friend goes
Have you ever managed to talk to someone about how you felt deux ?
I think that is such a valid point and funnily enough when ds heard his "friends" saying spaz, retard etc he said to me the thing is mum it could happen to their child and he is right. Again with the head injury thing some children are not born with special needs, they happen for one reason or another. Some people think they are exempt but it can happen to anyone.

TC ~ (you know me, namechange) Ds does thankfully have a good life. Lots of friends and lots of "normality". Which I have tried so hard to make sure he has. He doesn't want to know about dd's aspergers and I am not sure why but he says she is my sister and that's all i need to know!
Bullet and TC ~ you are right about adolescents and that is why I am going to fight for dd to go to a small private speech/language/communication school. yes my dd has the intelligence of an adult but emotionally is like a 3 year old. How the hell is she going to cope in ms high school???
Like you bullet my dd has quite significant sensory issues and I think this is why a small school will be better.

tclanger ~ sorry must proof read meant i would have said the same as you sorry