My DD is almost 6 - does really well and is super well-behaved at school, although is shy with adults and doesn’t talk much (never stops talking and going crazy in a playful way at home though). Plays alone or just one on one in intense friendships. Has super sensitive hearing (needs ear defenders in the lunch hall, at cinema and indoor birthday parties) and sense of smell.. older than her years but cries at the drop of a hat if senses rejection, hurts herself even slightly, doesn’t get her way etc. Also, will not listen to me if I try to have an “emotions” conversation or a conversation about anything serious (behaviour etc). Puts hands on ears and calls me names, runs off etc. Teachers at school would absolutely not think she had any special needs based on what she’s like at school, so I’m not sure whether I should push to get her assessed (privately given the waitlists) given teachers play such a large role in it? I know girls are fantastic at masking and feel I did the same throughout my entire life. I honestly don’t know if it’s normal 5 year old behaviour or not? Today all the other kids at a birthday party, many autistic, were happily playing and it was too much for her - she did her usual of saying she needed a sleep and laying on my lap with her eyes closed for most of it…. I’m really worried, esp looking towards teen years.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated