Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk

Back to thread
Original poster

To find my son disgusting

3 replies

thegreenlight · 20/05/2024 18:48

I was put on sertraline after losing my dad two years ago - I have just come off them as they made me like a zombie, feeling nothing, and put 4 stone on me. I have stopped taking them but now I find my son (who has adhd and high functioning autism) absolutely disgusting. He’s 11 and screams and tantrums if asked to take a shower, leaves food waste all over his room, he was in the hot tub with his brother and kept spitting water even though I asked him repeatedly to stop (and WHILE I was telling him to stop) he leaves his clothes everywhere, refuses to lift the toilet seat and pisses all over it despite me asking constantly for him not to do it. When I was on sertraline I could cope with it but now it makes me rage. I’ve just told him to get out of the tub (he won’t so I end up shouting at him) his attitude stinks and I don’t like him very much at the moment. I’m NOT going back on sertraline (even though my family would probably love me to as I’m a compliant fem-bot with no preferences or demands when on it). AIBU?

Go to post
MNHQ

HopeMumsnet · 21/05/2024 08:23

Hi all,
Just to say thanks to all the posters who reported this thread - to say we have been shocked to read some of the posts is an understatement. We at MNHQ would remind fellow MNers that loving parents sometimes come to vent, and that we have always held that the parents we should most be worried about are those who are not reflective about their feelings towards their children. A mum coming on here in extremis to explore her complicated feelings towards a child with special needs simply cannot be the target for some of the posts we have seen overnight.
We will be speaking to the relevant posters and would hope that we have tidied the thread sufficient for it to remain, but we will take our cues from the OP on that one.

MNHQ

HopeMumsnet · 21/05/2024 08:57

CuriousEgg · 21/05/2024 08:46

Hi MNHQ - are you suggesting that we support and encourage someone rejecting medical advice in a way that may be harmful? Does it sound sensible to reaffirm and encourage someone who has been on antidepressants to come off them like this and encourage thought patterns in this theead that will harm the op?
have you received advice from a psychologist when commenting this?

Edited
Show quote history

Hi there CuriousEgg,
We haven't removed any posts that offered medical advice, we focused on removing the ones that were breaking our guidelines regarding personal attacks and goading but we can see from your response that we perhaps should have made that clearer.
In short, no, we are not suggesting that MNers support and encourage someone rejecting medical advice in a way that may be harmful (though we should probably remind everyone at this juncture that we don't check posters' medical qualifications in advance).
Thanks for the opportunity to clarify, Curious.
Best,
Hope
MNHQ

MNHQ

HopeMumsnet · 21/05/2024 10:44

Hi all,
While we at MNHQ await a response from this OP to see if she still wishes the thread to go, we are moving it out of AIBU to SN Children. Please bear this in mind when posting.

Watch this thread for updates

Tap "Watch" to get all the latest updates

End of posts

There are no more MNHQ posts on this thread

Back to thread