I met my husband 4 years ago, we both had one boy from last relationship. He had a child with a Pilipino in the last relationship. The Pilipino mum walked away from the child and my husband when the child was 1. Averagely, she sees the child one weekend per month. Recently, she sees him once every two months.
The child is now my step-son. He has speech delay, cannot sit still, and some aggression toward to kids and animals/insects. He is now 6, hurting school kids on every other week basis. At home, he waved his knife and forks on the dinner table, poking my son (age 8)'s eyes, biting, kicking, push, and stamping on insects or animals. He often screams. He also took school girl's trousers off once. We are trying to get him assessed, but the waiting list is 3 year long. We are now trying private assessment, again it is still very slow.
My husband works full-time and does not do much childcare. Therefore I am with my own son and my step-son all the time. My step-son is aggressive and he cannot control his own emotions and angers. I am very struggling with his behaviors and feel like he is hurting my own son very often. Totally unpredictable danger in the house. My cousin working as a mental hospital nurse telling me that she thinks my step-son got conduct disorder. I had a look online, it is really awful mental problem.
The trouble is, my husband does not want to believe there is a problem on my step-son. My husband thinks I am picking on my step son. The Pilipino mum often moans about how we look after the child, even though she never paid one penny for the child for maintenance, or made more time to see her own son.
I feel so exhausted and sick of this situation. It is a lot of hard-work on the step son but no supports from any biological parents at all. All I got is criticism from them. Not sure what to do really. Like to hear what others' opinions. Thank you.