It really is incredibly difficult to answer this one. I have two children who are both affected in various degrees.
Dd is what you might think of as fairly-bad-case-scenario (not quite, quite worst-case). She started walking at 19 months, but was always a little unsteady. When she went to playschool, the staff remarked that she seemed to have an unusual amount of falls and accidents, and we noticed the same.
She was quite late with writing, but not abnormally so.
By the time she was 7 she started developing bad ankle pains, which made her unable to weight bear for days on end. This was when she was diagnosed and given exercises/insoles. She also had a lot of bladder infections and became mildly incontinent (part of hypermobility syndrome).
When she was 9 her hip joints also became affected. An incautious move would make her hip hurt so much that she couldn't stand up or sit.
A little later she started putting her back out; something as simple as turning over in bed could bring on back pains that made her unable to sit up. She missed a lot of time off school and juggling her care with work became very difficult. We also discovered that her muscles would go into spasm after she "put a joint out", which meant she took longer to recover. Unfortunately, it took a long time to find a way of working with the school.
She would have weeks when she could move around normally- she even danced in the ballet school show!- and then weeks of being confined to a wheelchair. Totally unpredictable.
She also started catching a lot of
infections (probably weakness from chronic pain) and started being sick after eating (chronic constipation- another problem that hypermobility can give).
Now she is 11 and we have finally had some decent treatment (including 5 weeks at a pain clinic which was excellent). An OT has been to her school to evaluate the whole of her school day and make sure she is not overstraining herself. Atm she uses a wheelchair to get to the school, but manages to get around without it. She has had to give up dancing and does not do PE. She has to do physio every day and wears insoles. She uses a special pen at school and has a slanting file to write on. She has been promised extra time for her SATS. We are hoping to get transport from the council, which may mean we can phase out the wheelchair altogether.
She is a lot more confident in herself and accepts that she will always be disabled to some extent.
Sorry, if this all sounds depressing. We'll move onto ds.
He is now 7 and has just been diagnosed with hypermobility. He has insoles and a special pen. He is obviously a much milder case: he has had some pains in the arch of his foot and (yesterday) in his hip, but nothing bad enough to stop him functioning. Hopefully having been diagnosed and given help earlier, he will never be that bad. He has struggled more with learning to write and is generally quite clumsy.
I feel really guilty about writing this, as dd is such a bad case. But if I have learnt anything over the years that might be useful it would be:
keep pushing for treatment if you think she needs it
never dismiss complaints of pain as imagination- and don't let the doctors do it either
see if you can get an OT onto dd's case if she needs it
and
lots of hypermobile people never have any problems at all