The midwife commented on dd's long, thin fingers as soon as she was born, so we had an idea then that she might have it. Both dd and ds (who is a year older) were followed up as though they both had marfans until we had the results of the genetic test when dd was around a year old.
I hope that they sort your husband's aorta out soon. My dh hadn't been for a check up for a couple of years, and he had always been OK. It was a shock to find out that it wasn't fine, and that he had to have surgery about 6 weeks later. He had no real symptoms. He'd been a bit more tired than usual, but dd was only about 6 weeks old and nobody was getting much sleep!
I don't mind you asking anything, most of the people that I know with marfans weren't diagnosed until they were much older than our children, (I know of one man who was in his 50's!) so if they had problems like this it might have been put down to other things.
Dd was a bit older than your son when she was out of nappies. Even now, it seems that she doesn't always notice (or her bladder isn't sending the right signal to her brain) if her bladder is full. That means that even now she sometimes leaks a little. If we remind her to go to the toilet quite often, it doesn't happen. She's also had a few urinary tract infections because of this.
An adult with marfans that I know pointed out that the bladder is made of connective tissue, and like everything else in marfans it can become stretchy. In people that haven't got a connective tissue disorder, it's the feeling of the bladder stretching as it fills that tells you that you need to empty it. So toilet training can be much harder.