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PotPourri · 23/03/2008 21:49

Hi all, I hope you don't mind me asking you all- but I was horrified when I heard this. Was talking to someone who is a high school teacher who was saying that he thinks children who are never told no at home cause problems at school. Apparently he told her a few times in the registration class that she couldn't do something and she went into meltdown and was hammering the floor. The class were in stunned silence and he stood and laughed at her and said 'when you are finished, you can sit down'. She is 12.

He was outraged that the parents complained and he was called into a meeting. According to him when he explained what had happened the parents told him that he should not have said no.

Immediately, I thought - the poor child must have special needs as my niece has aspergers and dyspraxia and this can happen with her - and I was absolutely horrified at him laughing at her But he was adamant that I was wrong.

Guess I just wanted some back up from people who might know - am I right in thinking this is hideous for a teacher to do???

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2shoes · 23/03/2008 21:54

sounds like more than a a usual "tantrum" a nt 12 year old would rather poke needles in their eyes than show themselves up infront of their peer like that, I asked ds 16.
so the child must have some form of sn imo.

TotalChaos · 23/03/2008 22:02

It does sound like something is amiss, couldn't really whether it was likely to be asd or not. Best practice would be for girl to be encouraged to recognise when she is getting wind up and go to a safe place/quiet place till she calms down so to avoid getting to that stage. laughing is wrong. but saying "when you are finished you can sit down" doesn't sound that bad to me, as if it's got to the meltdown stage, it just has to kind of work itself out, there's not much hope of reasoning things out.

PotPourri · 23/03/2008 22:35

Ok ta. Guess I was just so horrified that a teacher could be so cruel as to laugh. And I also find it hard to believe that an NT 12 year old would do this in front of peers. I agree though on the meltdown stage not being possible to reason with (once they reach that stage) - I have experienced that with my niece. I will mention to this teacher that it would be more appropriate and helpful to help her find ways to calm down before getting into this state. Thanks for getting back to me.

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wannaBe · 23/03/2008 22:41

Hmmm. sounds like the girl has some kind of sn, but...

Surely the teacher should have been aware of that? So if not, why not?

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