Allr eally interesting stuff!
mymatemax, does he have any food allergies? I am certain it cannot be coincidence that ds1, ds3 and I all have casein intolerances that were existent long before SN became a consideration- yet DH and ds2 (the NT one) do not. Severe stomach pains are very much a feature of this for me, with diarrhoea etc, but not on a totally predicatable basis- stress, all sorts can slightly affect the exact amount of casein we can tolerate.
DS1 also suffered birth trauma, from eclampsia and IUGR. And we have no idea what happened in my Mum's pregnancies, but she lost 4 boys at 28 weeks, then contracted rubella and lost that baby, then had me and my two sisters straight off- I was the eldest and came on my due dates. A rather strange obstetric history to say the least!
I definitely hold with the ASD is a definition of symptoms rather than one cause notion, I think there's an awful lot to be learned about the lines between HFA and AS- I think the language idea is probably the key but far too vague atm, I really believe its far more complex than can they talk at X age- DS1 could talk very young indeed, but even now his language shows huge idiosyncrasies and he won't talk at all in some situations, when his anxieties are high he just glues up all together.
A few years ago now I looked at some SPD stuff in psychology that indicated specific areas of damage in the brains ofsome affected individuals, and I noticed those were close to the aggression areas demonstrated in stroke victims- ever since I have felt it is likely that area was damaged in ds1's birth, as he has extreme aggression isues beyond the level of most ASD kids- his annual review forms came through alst week and his interaction with peers was rated as the lowest possible (1/10) because of this.