I'm having an utter nightmare with an utterly useless and underhand LA and getting an EHCP issued for my son who has severe autism, GDD and other needs. He's in a mainstream which is supportive, but I'm not sure how long they will support us. He is only 4.5, but he is very full on and needs 1 to 1. He is non verbal, has PICA and will put himself at risk of harm without supervision. He is not able to engage in classes and is segregated from other kids and basically on reins at school to keep him safe. It is utterly soul destroying taking him to school among NT kids when he is very obviously severely mentally disabled.
We are on week 40 of the process and about to have a finalised plan and they have told us that they have not found a specialist placement locally for my son out of 5 schools. Three are maintained schools. They refused to say whether the schools will meet needand there is just no place, they are just saying they haven't found a placement and will not confirm. Can I ask the schools for the details of the consultations? I think the LA are deliberately keeping from us whether the school said they could meet need or not as that means they can force them to take the child (so I have seen on an ombudsman report of my LA). I am trying to find the law relating to this.
They now are asking schools that are likely to be an hour and a half commute away, which is utterly nuts considering the needs and age (4.5) of my child. The placement and transport is probably going to break down very quickly and I think they know this and it's intentional. They are hoping I refuse the place so they can wash their hands of us and say they offered us something.
I am utterly, utterly broken by this to be honest. My son can be really challenging, but is a beautiful, cheerful boy. He doesn't deserve this and dealing with this as well as a FT job and dealing with his needs and sleep issues is breaking me. Anyone know what I can do now? I don't want the hassle of a tribunal and it's likely to delay things further. I am collecting a lot of info for the Ombudsman, and have told my LA of my intentions, but they don't seem bothered - it's par for the course for them. Any idea how I can get them to do their jobs and sort this out? I've emailed a local Councillor. My MP is a Tory, so probably doesn't give a fuck.