I was wondering if anyone had any experience with a child like dd. In September dd nursery spoke to use about some concerns with her speech and socialisation and referred he to SALT and had an early year advisor come and see her. We had been planning to ask about it as we knew her speach was delayed and she hadn't suddenly caught up like we hoped she would. We had her salt appointment and they said there was moderate concern there but they felt it could be caused by lack of attention and focus.
We then has the early year appointment and she said she wonders if dd has either asd or adhd. They said she is obviously delayed I speach but also movement and that she didn't play with other children just next to them amongst several other things.
There is a history of both adhd and asd in my family and ds is currently going through diagnoses for suspected adhd so we had wondered about this too. Dd makes great eye contact, answers to her name and is very affectionate so we had ruled out autism but the advisor said girls are very good at masking. Is I possible to have asd but do those things?
Since the nursery have bought it up I'm noticing more things that I assume I had just over looked:
Dd has always done this thing where she tenses up and shakes her fists when she's excited (although nursery say she also does it when overwhelmed)
She pinches her finger together, quite often in front of her eyes.
She has extreme tantrums/meltdowns for hours at a time where nothing calms her.
She has always been obsessed with my hair, pulling bits out or chewing it and does the same with hers now it's long enough.
She will play with ds or me but mainly plays on her own and seems to prefer to.
She mainly flits from one activity to another quickly unless she wort of zones out whilst doing something she has chosen.
Sorry for the long read, I have an appointment with gp to ask to be referred but I know how long it can take and was wondering if anyone had a similar child