How to help 12 year old regulate

[Stinkycheesekaren]

My son is 12, second year of high school. He’s being investigated for possible ADHD and ASD. He has developed a habit of shouting at children that annoy him. No amount of us telling him to move away or to use his quiet words has helped. Has anyone got any ideas how to break this habit? It’s not doing him any favours with his peers, who are either provoking him to react or giving him a wide berth.

Can you look at the reasons why peers annoy him and then work to reduce that. For example, do they get in his personal space, talk too much, make too much noise, tap…

Is it a case of the straw that broke the camels back? If other things are causing DS to become dysregulated the annoying things other DC do could just be the trigger for numerous other things.

Do school use anything like Zones of Regulation?

Thanks. We’ve tried zones of regulation with him and they help him reflect after the fact, but not change the behaviour at the time. The other children are often (though not always) just being friendly. He struggles to tell what their motivations are. There’s not any particular triggers as far as we can tell.