Sorry another rant !!!!!! have to get it off my chest...........

[ladyrobinredbreast]

Some of you may have read my post last week about my ds2 and how isolated i felt he was..how i felt other mums didnt want to invite my ds round as they felt his ASD was too dificult to cope with ...
Any way a little boy invited him round last week(great i hear yousay.. not) they cancelled about an hour before he was due to go,theresult i probably dont need to explain,they then arranged for him to go two days later..then guess what ...they cancelled again!!!!!!!!!!.By this time im trying to be calm and rational and cope with the outbursts from my ds this has caused.The mum rang me last night to arrange for ds to go to their house today and stay for tea etc. so off ds2 went today,his little bag packed with toys, i felt comfortable as well as this mum is a nurse and quite calm and laid back and i didnt forsee any problems..
at 5.30 the door knocked and she brought ds2 home ...no tea!!!!!!! they did nothing but fight and she felt it was better to bring him home??????this would not put her off inviting him again!!!!!!!!!!
Know the worse thing????? i found myself apologising WTF?????
Ds was starving,really upset extremly emotional..
total disaster WHAT WENT WRONG and WWHY WAS I APOLOGISING|?????
sorry about rant !!!!but i dont understand why she didnt just give him his tea and then bring him home....i mean how bad could he have been???
He has been there before and there was no problem and we have had her d here on a few occassions ,our house is a bit of a madhouse anyway so maybe we are more used to it ....

Tiotally unacceptable, rude and selfish.
if it was me I would have gritted my teeth and had him until the end of the playdate,especially as I presume this woman knows your ds has an asd and how much it would mean to you that he was being invited.

The double cancellation makes matters worse!!

I wouldn't be able to forgive her I'm afraid, OR have her kid around.

Oh no!

What reason did they give for cancelling the first 2 visits? The poor little mite must have been so confused when he came home early and with nothing to eat. Your post makes me want to invite him here for tea instead.

thanks, just felt that if had been me i would never have said anything or brought him home early...her ds is an only child so maybe she is not used to the bickering and squabbling that is part of family life ....well ours anyway
Two very plausable reasons for cancelling,but then i think maybe she wasnt too keen on having him today and felt she had to iykwim .
Any all part of the highs and lows of being a SN parent.. just poured myself a large glass of wine ... he's tucked up safely in bed and i'll be going soon...nighty night xxx
Ps whatever did i do before i discovered MN????

Yes,ds can come to play with us anytime!!
Actually you may be right about the only child thing. my mother is an only child and used to get INCREDIBLY upset when Us three girls argued. However I know that we argued about 1/10 as much as all my friends and their siblings, but she just couldn't accept that-had a completely idealised view of how kids were together.

Don't let it bother you. Ds better off out of there imo.
Sleep well!

robinredbreast, sorry to hear about your ds' disappointment. He can come round to mine anytime AND I'll make him a nice tea AND he can argue with my ds as much as he likes. My ds is an only child and I think it would be really beneficial to experience some of the normal argy-bargy that goes on between siblings

AAAWW you are all so sweet.
More annoyed at myself for apologising and trying to explain his behaviour to her it just seemed that i was making excuses.Its just really hard as you dont want anyone to think badly of him so i find myself explaining /justifying ,trying to make people understand his behaviour................but he is adorable and also really funny and his quirks and all that other stuff is part of the complete package and make him who he is.(SORRY BEGINING TO SOUND LIKE ANOTHER RANT)
Thanks for listening xxxx

Just wanted to add your ds is welcome to come to tea with my ds anytime as well. He sounds a gorgeous little boy. Sorry you had this experience. The whole going to a friends for tea is something we really struggle with. My ds is in yr 1 and he has never been invited back for tea. He sees other kids go off together and he gets really sad and asks me if he could go too! We have had a few kids back here and they seemed to have a great time but no invites back!!

Awww heartbreaking isnt it..
We dont and never have had this problem with our other boys as they have very good social lives,just makes ds2's issues worse.

oh I'm so sorry, I truly am.
Please don't let this put you off though.

Ladyrobin, so sorry to hear about this. Where do you live?! Fancy tea and cake in Brighton?!