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17 month old toddler, should I get in touch with HV?

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bookyw · 12/09/2023 01:16

I'm going to do a little "day in the life of" so you see if my toddler has problems and how I should best address them

Toddler sleeps in her own room and usually wakes at 7.30, she babbles and I enter the room, she gives me a big smile and is obviously pleased to see me but when I'm about an outstretched arm distance from her she turns away and puts her head into her pillow or turns her back to me; at this stage I go and open the curtains and sit in our nursery chair until she comes to me.

She does the same thing when her dad comes home or she sees her grandma, she'll literally run towards them and just at the last moment she'll turn away, she'd often run a few paces in the other direction or go pick up a toy and bring it to show them.

She is quite difficult to dress, she cries and throw's herself around and is equally difficult with nappy changes unless the tv is on and she is watching something
She is extremely independent and more often than not she throws away your hand if you offer it to hold, turns away from kisses and hugs although occasionally out of the blue she'll run up (often when you are facing away from her) and give you a gentle kiss on the shoulder,
She's rough but very loving towards pets and teddies holding; hugging, kissing. She is always moving and into everything unless she is watching tv. She is a one toddler wrecking squad and can turn a room upside down within minutes, she know what no means and often cries when I tell her NO. She'll use No to me when she doesn't want to do something.
She is super athletic and is completely fearless. She would walk outside the door and carry on and never look back, we've pretended to walk away at the beach to see how she'd react and she's not remotely bothered no matter how far we get.
Is this normal? I'm happy to answer any questions as she's got so many nuances
Thank you

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Jk8 · 12/09/2023 04:53

Honestly. I'd say she's just playing or is shy (hence the compulsion to be involved but struggles last minute)

SuchiRolls · 14/09/2023 23:00

It’s hard to say but trust your instincts. My son started showing sign at aged 2. He actually was showing them before this, but as he was so young we didn’t realise at the time. We didn’t know what it was but we knew it was something (he has 2 older brothers). Here we are at almost 8, and he was diagnosed at 5 with ASD and he has a gene deletion. So yeah, trust your gut and monitor it. Because if it is ASD, it not going away.

Btw, I think the “autistic individuals don’t show affection” is a myth. Maybe some don’t and sole do, just like any other human being. My son is very affectionate, mainly with me and his oldest brother. He cuddles and asks for kisses etc. It’s a sensory need for pressure mainly. But he does love a squish 🥰

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