Advice needed................urgently

[Amber85]

I have 2 boys 1 is 5 and the other is 2.75 the eldest is currently undergoing testing for an ASD, today they have pushed me to the limits, so they are currently ruining their bedroom, all my coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with their behaviour have ceased to work and i was hoping some one can help please

Have they had enough exercise today. I find you need to make sure they burn off that extra energy or they find it hard to settle. As for now, sit down DS1 look him in the eyes and tell him to "calm down" Run him a warm bath and put him in with his favourite tots. Keep DS2 away from him!!!
should give you a break for a while. Fingers crossed!

Can you be more specific amber? What behaviour is it exactly that you need help with?

I agree with microwave that separating them is the best option right now.

tot=toys oops and meant to add put hands on his shoulders and keep him still when addressing him, I find this refocuses long enough for him to listen!!

With Ds1 I find that because he likes numbers and counting so much, if I hold out my fingers and slowly and firmly count to him it helps to settle him if he's just starting to get worked up.

Take a break, lock them in if you need to. Have a fag, or a cup of tea, then re-enter the fray refreshed. I know exactly how you feel, it is exhausting and this is the hardest time of day. You are in charge though, once you have taken a break, tell them in no uncertain terms to get in separate rooms and behave or no computer for a week, or hairwash (my threat to my ASD son, which he hates. Good luck! It's nearly bedtime!

Thanks for all you help am putting the kettle on in tears trying to focus on pulling myself to gether, it is nice to have such helpful information as i have no support where i am as i moved away from family 2 years ago and have no breaks, i am going to have a brew and cig, as they are definatly need, then tackle the troublesome duo, and thanks again