I'm waiting for an ADHD assessment for my 7 year old, I feel like I'm failing her. I've suspected ADHD for a very long time but so many people have told me that they don't think I'm right that now I feel like a fraud asking for help. Maybe I just am I terrible parent. I feel like I'm constantly telling her off, I've lost my bond with her and it's not fair on anyone. It's breaking me, she didn't talk properly until she was 2.5 years old, she wasn't potty trained until she was 4, she's fallen so far behind in school, and I've had so many people tell me it's just because I'm not doing enough. On the other hand some of these people are telling me they think my younger child is autistic. So am I failing that child by being more concerned about my eldest? I don't think I have enough fight to get them what they need - my youngest might even grow out of some of her challenges but she's so easy compared to her big sister that right now she's happy and thriving and her quirks don't hold her back. How do you do it? Because I don't think I can and I'm terrified that I'm not the mother they need and deserve.