i'm going mad!please help!

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think my dh has aspergers.he's so hard to live with at the moment.he's full of anger.the smallest thing sets him off.i have to creep round him and let him do whatever he choses otherwise he will shout at me.if i argue with him he'll take 3 days to get over it and then only if i take blame.he thinks nothing his fault.his obsessions are driving me mad because they affect me.don't know how to cope with this,cannot talk to him as he'll lose it.often made to feel he doesn't care about me as he has no empathy and cannot see my point of view.he puts every thing else before me.what can i do?

bumping for you................

How old is he bottomoflist? I think it makes a difference how to approach them, not that I necessarily have the answers!

There was a really good article in last week's Saturday Times 'Body and Soul' supplement about being married to an Aspie. Have a look on their website - they might still have it on there. I think (but not sure) someone has a helpline - but they've certainly written a book about it. Unfortunatly I've chucked ours or its in the rabbit cage!

Has he always been like this or is there a recent change or possible anxiety thing. It could be depression??

thanks so much for bumping and for your replies!he's 38 and there is most probably anxiety as we have teenaged children which causes friction and competitiveness.cannot calm him down easily though about anything.says he's calm at work!think this is because of routine and lack of verbal challenges.

here you are the article from the Times:

women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/body_and_soul/article3416502.ece

title:

Does your partner have Asperger's?
hope you find it useful - good luck and let us know how it goes.

Could also be depression (and people with AS tend towards depression anyway in many cases)

Have a look at the triad of impairments on the national sutistic website, but do consider if he could be depressed as well.