I have a child (5) who is really impulsive, has no common sense and is constantly acting without thinking, doesn’t stop talking, constantly interrupts and only interested in his own interests.
He is constantly winding his brother (4) up - just constantly digging at him or teasing or encouraging him to do things to get him in trouble.
At school, he is incredibly academic and is self regulating well. His behaviour is 99% amazing but he’s only been in reception so obviously it’s more play based (I have considered high functioning ASD as he is very intense with his interests and Maths is year2 already but not sure there is enough symptoms of this really other than that and struggling to understand why others would feel a certain way over his actions).
My brother has diagnosed ADHD and has had 2 screenings for ASD and is having the assessment in a couple of months. I’m sure he has what would have been called Aspergers as he’s very intense, struggles with relationships and is very academic.
I don’t know what the best way to deal with the sibling issues is?
we have behaviour charts which sometimes work although a lot of tears but he just doesn’t think although he loves the positive when he gets through an AM or PM and gets ticks.
I can’t see any point self referring for ADHD as it needs to be in two places and at school I don’t think they’d agree currently - I think they probably would have seen more in nursery as he was loud and hyper there (more than at home) due to the lack of structure and consequences.
just feeling frazzled and like a rubbish parent.
Any advice greatly received.
For context:
We work and have no family support currently, although we used to and I know DS1 is finding not seeing much of grandparents for the last year very difficult so we never get any respite - we work opposite hours to each other and only get one day off together so it’s difficult to give each other a break.