Well let's see. It depends on where you are as to what services you get. Some schools have more money than others, and of course in those schools better services are available. Some schools in my area have complete autism programs: Occupational therapists, speech therapists, teachers, behavior analysts,physical therapist, and lots of assistants all specifically dealing with autism. They try to mainstream these children as much as possible. So the children would go back and forth to different classrooms depending on their skill level.
In other schools there is no autism program, there is just a special needs program and all children the same age are in the same class. These aren't the best programs, but are what's available in that area. And you have to go to the school in the area in which you live. There is no choice, unless you move somewhere else.
However, all children with autism get government insurance which provides an early interventionist once or twice a week, speech, occupational, and physical therapy every day. Until a child is three years old the government will pay for ABA 20 hours/week. On the child's 3rd birthday, this service stops and the child is eligible to go into the public school system. But again that depends on where you live as to how good that school is. The child is also entitled to 15 hours a week to have a personal care assistant come to the house. This isn't a trained person, but someone who will do your laundry and prepare meals.
There are not a lot of services for ABA or other in-home early intervention. The ones that are available are really expensive. An average program is $50,000/year. So most people come up with their own programs. It basically works like this, if you have an extra $50,000 a year you can get great services for your child. If you don't have that much extra then you will struggle to find an appropriate intervention plan. We definetely have amazing resources, it's just that not everyone has access to them.
I'm currently working on a project back in the states for parents who have no resources to set up their own intervention programs. Parents really are the best resource and will spend a whole lot more time with their children than I will, so it's important to empower them to become involved.
Private schools are available, but expensive. There are some charity pre-schools where typical and ASD kids are put together, but they aren't common.
I think the best thing is diagnosis. Usually, a child should be able to get a dianosis before they are 3. Sometimes there is a long waiting list to be evaluated for autism.
What is the diagnosis process like? Do you have to see a specialist? Do they give you information on what to do with your child if they receive a diagnosis? How do people find services? Do most children do programs at home or is access to that restricted?