Perception and Reality

[JakBFrostNippingatYourtoes]

Thought I would share with you my experience last night. Went up to London for a glossy magazine party. Donned black sparkly frock for the occasion. Very good party- astrologer there (who immediately said, 'you have had the hardest 2 years of your life'. Erm, yep, you can say that again) and Bjorn Again. Excellent. A rare break from my day-to-day life. Anyway, started talking to a woman who got progressively more and more drunk. She decided I was her target for the evening and suddenly turned on me and said, 'You, you're so bloody smug and so 'safe' and your life is so perfect with your husband and two children'.

Ha. So I said, 'Look, XXXX, you are getting very drunk and you are starting to offend me. My life is far from safe and smug. I actually have a daughter who is severely autistic, rarely get out and you have made a judgement based on scanty knowledge when you know nothing about my life. Nothing about my life at all'...

She retreated...

Interesting, though. I shed my 'mother of an autistic child' persona for one evening and passed as happy-go-lucky woman with a 'perfect life'. Ha,ha,ha, ha

Good for you JakB. She sounds like a bitter old hack (!). Hope you've made her think twice about such superficial judgements. And hope you felt a whole lot better, even if it was just for a minute. Sad to say I have the odd daydream about telling certain people where to get off in no uncertain terms. Who was the astrologer by the way? S/he sounds good.

Am not in the habit of telling people to p off but I was fuelled by Bjorn Again Abba band!
The astrologer was Andrea Soole. She's quite well known and she really was VERY good. Eerily good. Bit spooky, acftually. Said a few things about my relationship with DH. When I told him he said, predictably, 'load of old b"!

What a cow. Should have said- "fine lets swap lives for a week we could write an article about it". Then you could have returned to peel her off the carpet having spent the week relaxing. If it was actually safe to do something like that there are a few people I would have in mind to swap with. Unfortunately I'm not sure ds1 would survive!

Good on you JakB.

JakBFrostNippingatYourToes - I'd have done more than nip her toes, I'd have felt like knocking her head off! Good for you

Sounds like not a very happy person.... funny people always say how calm I am... I think having a child with special needs gives you a different perspective.

Glad you had a good night anyway apart from this annoying person.

Good for you Jak! I never have the nerve to say anything to people like that, just look round desperately for escape and hope someone rescues me! Trouble is, I always seem to attract them!

Outrageous! Don't care if she was drunk. No excuse for such a personal attack. Hope she felt incredibly small when you set the record straight.

did she know you professionally? was she a stranger?

gosh she must be bitter and twisted with a really sad life to say anything like that to anyone

am stunned TBH

good on you though ..if I had been there I would have applauded

Good Lord, that's outrageous. Poor woman obviously has "issues" . Glad to hear you (a) gave her come-uppance and (b) have rightly taken it as a compliment to your obviously impressive image!

Oooh, I should have been there too, but had a miserable cold and was too vast to face it.
God, she sounds bitter and drunk - lot of it about in our field. She wasn't a bit old and single, was she?
I keep meaning to cat you - but can't remember your pre-Xmas name!

Bloody Hell, wish you had been there and we had CAT each other beforehand. Anyway, I do have the perfect life, don't you know!
My pre-Christmas name is jakbrown (I think?!)