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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

What has helped in making big life transitions easier?

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Hellokittymania · 27/05/2023 06:21

I posted on here call me even though it special needs children, because I’m sure some of you will be able to come up with some good ideas. I am in a new home, in a strange place and completely not coping. I did post on here a few weeks ago about making a sensory room, which may help, hopefully. And I think I’m being too hard on myself here. It has been a tough year for me, and I don’t handle changes, especially very very big ones, well. Not to mention I’ve had to do things like open a bank account, learn how to use the bank card, I didn’t know you could deposit money on an ATM for example, all of this I did yesterday, Thursday I got a mobile phone , I’m in Greece by the way. I had been here for long periods of time before, but the situation was very very different, at first I was living in a home for the blind and then after I was living with someone who was helping me quite a bit, although then I found out she was taking advantage of me. Everyone has told me not to worry, it takes time to get used to a new place, and I’m trying to find a way to come up with the routine every day, this will help.

I did have a really really good carer last year, this was partly how I knew that the lady I was living with was taking advantage of me. She was from the special education university, and both of her parents had a disability, I loved being with her and we did lots of activities, from dancing to going out for ice cream, but she was with me every day and it was a giant help. This year, I have not been so lucky in finding such a good person. I have had someone on and off, but I’m mostly doing things on my own now. I’m not doing any activities, since I don’t know what is around the new area, and some of them I just couldn’t do by myself. My friend who is an OT suggested swimming at the beach, the beach has a lot of rocks, I do have beach shoes, since I can’t stand walking on rocks especially since I can’t see them, but I don’t know how easy this may be to do alone.

if you have had to move house, and have a child with autism or anything really or things can be very very hard to handle, what have you find that has helped?

right now, when I wake up, I’m having my coffee, then going for a walk, then reading some story books in Greek, then coming home, having lunch, I don’t know how to cook yet so I’m buying things mostly, then going on the Internet for a bit, then in the evening I go for another walk, have a coffee while I’m out, come back, have dinner, and then read again. I’m trying to learn what ingredients and things are at the supermarket so I can very slowly start to actually make my own food, so far I have only been able to do pasta and sauce, and I’m still looking for kitchen equipment that will make life slightly easier. I brought my slow cooker from the UK, but I need to find an adapter and really hope it will work.

my mom is older by the way, and she really wanted for me to be in a safe place, so this home was her gift to me. Previously, I really really liked it here and felt so comfortable, but in the past year I have been through a lot and everything‘s changed. So I’m trying to h make the best of a difficult situation right now and hope it gets easier

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Hellokittymania · 27/05/2023 08:05

By the way, someone is here right now putting together my swing on the balcony. That’s one thing I really really wanted. Hopefully things like this will make things slightly more manageable

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SusiePevensie · 27/05/2023 09:41

You are showing a lot of resilience already, so first of all you should be proud of yourself.

Hellokittymania · 27/05/2023 11:52

Susie, thank you. I’ve had quite a good morning today actually, and I went on the swing, it’s great. But we’ve had to move it inside because it’s going to rain and I don’t have anyone to help me to move it when I’m on my own. I just went for a walk now to get something to eat and some coffee.

it hasn’t been an easy couple of months, and I’m seeing other people say that moving is hard, buying a home is hard, when it’s abroad, even in a place you know, it’s twice that.

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Hellokittymania · 27/05/2023 11:54

I tried to attach a photo of the swing, but because I’m out, I don’t have Wi-Fi I don’t think it did it things like that though make me really happy because I’m a sensory seeking person. i’ve heard there is a hotel that you can pay to use their pool, I don’t have my health certificate yet to use the public pool, and even if I do I would need someone to go with me. I don’t know if there are things for people with disabilities at the swimming pool like in the UK. And I am really, really missing relaxed times.

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