I have a 7 and 8 year old. They are both completely different in so many ways. They do not get along. 8 year old diagnosed with ASD in reception. They constantly fight unless the time they spend together is scaffolded the whole time. I will have to separate them daily. They both attend same public school. Very recently I've wanted to take 8 year old out and homeschool him. 7 year old loves school , loves his friends, I don't think he would want to leave but I'd feel so guilty. 8 year old massively benefits from smaller crowds and quiet times, which is almost impossible to accomplish out of school hours. He has been off school this week and we have been out and it was so nice, places are empty with everyone being in school. It's never a good day with both of them together, I can't even manage it on my own as when overwhelmed my 8 year old will run off no matter where we are.
I would still obviously spend time with my 7 year old too and make sure dedicated time is put into him, I can do anything with him and take him anywhere anytime there's not as many limits. it would be easier to explain to 8 year old why that was happening with him also having the same experience too. I'm just not sure what to do and it all makes me feel a bit weird as I've had a family member tell me it's not fair. 8 year old already doesn't spend full day at school as he finds lunchtimes too much to deal with. I just dont know what to do really.