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DS’s Boredom

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spacerabbit · 07/05/2023 13:48

My DS is 10 and is autistic. He is demand avoidant and possibly ADHD but assessment was inconclusive. My biggest issue is that he says he is BORED all the time. I suggest many things for him to do, trips out, games, baking, movies, park etc etc but his knee jerk reaction is an immediate no. He has a low attention span so quickly tires of something that has been done once. He loves thrills and excitement like being chased or winning over others. He HATES losing and this is an extreme trigger for him. I’m at a loss for what to do. After school he berates me for feeling bored and I’ve tried to address this by organising some ready made options so he can choose a from selection of activities but he immediately rejects this. If I suggest exciting things that is new, he agrees readily but the next time, he won’t agree “as it’s boring”. It’s impossible to keep thinking up new things. We do agree to repeat some activities but only after he has his angry outburst of refusal and he’s worked off the frustration by fighting with his siblings/screaming etc etc. I’m so exhausted. Does anyone have an suggestions?

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SusiePevensie · 07/05/2023 16:40

Does sound tiring. Might help to break down what 'boring' means. Could the chart below be of use?

DS’s Boredom
Ilovechoc12 · 10/05/2023 06:26

Everything low demand / low pace is boring to my child. Computer games are his love he can spend hours on them 😬

He also like things that are fast action - bike ride can go fast down hills , football, swimming / water slides / body boarding - all unpredictable things .... he likes fast action/ speed almost with things can change fast.

The calmest thing he will do is baking.

Everything else is boring

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