I think we have our referral!

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Either that or they do a standard paed medical assessment when they hit 4-5??

It just says that the community paed would like to see my child for a medical assessment. I would assume that the community paed would have been the first avenue my GP sent me down.

It is at 2pm on a school day though - I don't knwo if I should try and change it for a different time, or just go with it? She loves school, and I think it might freak her out if I take her out if I can possibly avoid it.

Thats good news Flame Ds appointments are always during school time. You may be able to change it but last time I did that we had to wait another 5 months to be seen. If you give her plenty of warning it should help her stay calm.

Oh and i have that social stories stuff if you still want it. We can get together after 1/2 term for a coffee or i can email it to you now as I scanned it all onto the computer to send it to Blossomhill.

Ooh thank you Either (or both) sounds good I'll call them on Monday and see how long the wait is likely to be for a later appointment (or even one first thing in the morning), and then I can make the decision.

oooh.....now thats interesting.....as far as I knew our docs don't have a community paed, let alone do a basic assesment just for when they turn 5!!!!

me thinks you have your referral, but ring them about times and still warn her.

unless you lie and tell her she has a 'bugs day' and not send her in at all......

She checks with other people about bugs days

Done a quick google... the doctor was the school doctor with St James in 2006.

I'm just a bit because the letter has her school on there and not the doctor's name. SALT is meant to be done at school, so it is unlikely it is that.

My J hates having appointments during school time, but they always are - he gets very angry, so I have to have a treat ready to counterbalance the strop about missing school e.g. he may buy a bottle of water from the hospital machine, which for him is a massive treat!

As long as she is prepared for it, I think you should grab the appointment with both hands if they can't give you a different time. The dx process is soooooooooooo long anyway that it's best to get it started ASAP.

Been reading more - think it is school related, possibly SALT. F*ck knows.

Why don't they tell you in the letter??????????

Now realised the letterhead says Poole Hospital

HURRAH!

I phoned them today. It IS the AS referral, so I am keeping the appointment.

Part of me wants to give her no warning at all so they can see how thrown she is, but I can't do that to her I'll tell her she is leaving school early, but not why I think.

Now all nervous about it all though. The whole thing with part of me wants them to tell me I am paranoid and it is all my parenting/her personality, and then the other part wanting to feel justified.

Ok, so I am starting to get all worked up now

This week is a good week - she is seeming perfectly "normal". She started doing imaginative play a couple of weeks ago without prompting (before she has always been with other children who tell her what she is doing/who she is being etc). She has started telling me when people are sad/cross on tv - but then thinking about it, if it is expressive (tears/shouting etc) then she knows what the emotion is, just not necessarily why they are feeling it (she doesn't seem to realise that I am building up to cross when she refuses to do something - it just gets more and more until I'm yelling and she is crying/shouting back). We are doing better now we are both saying "I feel cross".

Anyway, I am back onto - she's fine and it is just me imagining things/making excuses for her.

But then at the same time she can tell you how to make a racing worm by heart, having seen a episode of Mr Maker just the once.

I dunno.

Maybe I should print out my threads on here where I keep flicking from sure to unsure and just make em read that!

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lol @ the water being too wet!

I made the mistake yesterday of saying "We're doing it this way for a change" which led to sobs of "But I don't like changes!!!"

Had empathy today though

(Oh, this is Flame)

hi dustystar ~ have checked my emails and not sure if i have received the stuff you sent! Just wouldn't want you to think I was ignoring you