Hello,
Wondering if anyone can advise.
My DS is four, autistic and non-verbal. He was diagnosed about 18 months ago. We pay for OT & SLT. His nursery are generally supportive. We're in London.
The SENCO spoke to us about applying for an EHCP for primary school (he'll start reception in September) and she sent the letter off, at the same kind of time, about five-ish months ago. Fast forward to now, and 2/3 weeks ago we heard not only has an EHCP been granted but DS has the highest band of support due to a pretty significant level of need. I was relieved about this result.
Late last year I visited ten local primaries and spoke to many SENCOs. The most obvious choice was a lovely mainstream school with an autism resource base. Entirely understandably, the ARB places are limited. We also liked two local, small, inclusive schools and both SENCOs were kind enough to speak privately to me and DH, confirming they were have autistic children in the school community and are very familiar with EHCPs etc. They thought he sounded capable of doing well in their settings.
With our EHCP in draft, our case worker nominated the ARB school as our first choice, with the other two as backup. All have said no in response to consultation. The first school say they don't have space and the other two have said they can't meet my son's needs. I'm crushed, tbh. Our case worker is 'very surprised', which is not wildly useful but sort of appreciated. Apparently the SENCO at one of the other two little schools (who we had such a nice chat with) is upset on our behalf (possibly because my DH said I'd be chairman of the PTA! but that's a side note. Trying to lighten the mood here I guess). The case worker has alluded that other children with EHCPs simply got in there first with their consultations to these three schools.
I realised a few weeks ago that our SENCO started the ECHP process late. I do realise I cannot lay blame entirely at her feet here - he's my son - but I didn't know anything about EHCPs whatsoever until recently. DS is our first child. We don't know any autistic people other than him and it's been a steep learning curve. I'm very disappointed it was started so late, but I can't go back in time, so that's that.
His current school have said they would take him for another year in nursery, so we could possibly do that and then try to get him into the ARB school next year. Not sure if that's a good move or not. For context, the nursery he's at is attached to a private school who are quite snobby and wouldn't take him into primary anyway.
Any advice? I have rung special schools today and they are all full and have waiting lists so consultations with them seem futile.