my mum has had a struggle at times with dd1's having down syndrome. She always focuses on what dd1 can't do etc. she worried all through this pregnancy that dd2 would have heart defect or down syndrome also - especially when they found the soft marker at 20 weeks. she was sooo relieved when dd2 was born okay - that when she called to tell people about dd2's birth she
could only focus on the fact that she was okay and forgot to tell people dd2's name.
THe week I was in hospital dd1 stayed with sil and mother and they all survived. I think that was the best thing that could have happened - dm could see how capable dd1 was and how easy life was with her rather than focus on how hard it is ( in her mind)
Well ( sorry for the long intro - wanted to set the scene) We were at a carols by candle light last night and dd1 was in prime form - singing, dancing, cheering and clapping after carols etc. Grandma took her on her lap and was cuddling, kissing, encouraging her and pointing out the cute things she was doing to her friend ( seated next to her). This is the first time my mum has ever done anything like that.
Both dh and I felt we had witnessed some sort of 'breakthrough'. We were so proud of dd1 - she loved the singing and the little plays that were put on. SHe cheered and smiled and her eyes were lit up. made me all emotional.....
Sorry for the rave - just wanted to share.