Residential school

[starsparkle08]

Hi my sons 11.5 years old . Severe adhd with autism and tic disorder accompanied by very very challenging behaviours. These include threatening me with a knife and kitchen scissors . He’s also sexually inappropriate. Furthermore we have biting , pulling hair , pinching , kicking , hitting etc . I’ve just agreed for social worker to put his assessment out to the placement team for residential . It’s breaking my heart but he needs more than I can give as a single parent . He’s 2:1 in school , and out in the community with carers . Yet with me it’s just me . Am I bad have I made the wrong choice . He’s got an appointment with psychiatrist tomorrow , well I have via teams . She’s never met him , fortunately school are attending as he’s the same there behaviourally . I feel like I’m betraying my son but I can’t live with the behaviours 24/7 anymore

You’re not bad, wrong or failing DS. You’ve already said you’re on your own and everyone else is caring for DS 2:1. There’s only so much you can do on your own. DS’s needs currently aren’t being met through no fault of your own, and residential school may be able to better meet his needs. It may also mean the time you do spend with DS can be better for both of you than your current situation.

Sounds like you’re having a really hard time. Getting more help doesn’t mean you’re failing your boy it means you’re doing everything you can to help him. Just because it doesn’t look like what other families might do doesn’t mean it’s wrong for you.

best of luck and be kind to yourself.