Parents of SN children and stress

[IsabelAllende]

I have a 5.5 year old with ASD and poor executive function. He can dress himself but won't do it without 1000s of prompting, reminders and help. Takes about 30-40 minutes in the mornings, and I cannot just ask him to put his T-shirt on or shoes on: he wanders away, starts doing something else etc... He won't sleep on his own, needs constant attention and never stays still.

I know it's not his fault, but it's constant and I'm getting so stressed about it. DH is helpful but out early mornings and minimises a lot of the struggles we have. When I go out with both DC I have to be constantly on alert in case he runs away/ does something inappropriate (like running in front of people and snatching things). I'm so tired, simply exhausted.

I love DC so so much, but need strategies on de-stressing, any advice welcome.

Can you get a mother's help in the morning? Do you have any friends or family that can give you a break? Your husband in the weekend?

Sounds exactly like my 9 year old, it's absolutely draining, I feel you 🌹 can you get some respite? Friend or family? Husband could look after him for you to have a bit of time for yourself? Even if it's just having a nice bath and relaxing that way 🌹

<3 DH does looking after him, but he's been busier at work than usual and my work has been stressful too.

Have no words if wisdom just solidarity and understand exactly where you are coming from, i feel so bone achingly tired.

Me too. So exhausted 🌺