since dd got more verbal she can really embaress me

[jenk1]

dd,s language is really really good, she talks in proper sentences now but she tends to blurt out anything and everything.

oh holiday she had been to the bathroom with me, it was that particular time of the month and she was very interested, i managed to distract her (so i thought) but at the dinner table in front of all my family she said in a very loud voice

"grandma do you know what my mummy wears in her knickers"?

i said "DD NO"

she said "PAPPIES" -her word for nappies.

well i was so embaressed, my dad was there and he looked embaressed, the rest of my family were in hysterics.

a few days later she said "Grandma you know my mum when she wears a swimming costume, she doesnt wear any knickers"

its so embaressing and her behaviour is getting worse as well, her latest obsession is to go up to DH and DS and sniff their backsides, what is that all about,i really dont understand that!!!!!

Not really had to deal with this, as DS' language isn't at that stage yet - well done to your DD for doing so well. Only thing that crosses my mind is whether some sort of social stories might be helpful?

I'm presuming she's talking about sanitary towels with the first one? .

Two points: 1. I think Yurt had the bottom sniffing with her ds1- might be worth tracking her down for a chat? I shall point her to this thread

secondly- the embarassing comments- not entirely sure that's not a pretty average thing for a newly verbal child tbh! ds1 is the opposite though- so tight laced about everything that each snetence is monitored by him. But I agree the social stories may well help her to learn what is and isn't appropriate.

re the social stories, i have thought about that but dont know if she,d understand them yet.

she also tells everyone she meets that her dad and brother weed in the trees, which was 2 years ago when we were returning from a long trip and ds couldnt wait so we stopped off at some woodland area, she,s never forgotten that and you can be talking to someone and she,ll interrupt and say "you know what, daddy and mikey weed in the trees" with a big smile on her face.

bullet, yes she was talking about sanitary towels!!! oh i can still feel myself squirming when i think of that night!!!!

I just say calmly 'we don't talk about that here,' (pants at the table if specifics are needed) 'it is private'. You may need to quietly ask family not to laugh when dd says something socially inappropriate, to avoid the child thinking it entertaining. I wonder what parents of nt children do?
I appreciate how embarrassing it is - Ds who is older and large for his age comes out with similar. I think the poor social awareness is behind it and social stories or a simple explanation later may help.

oh jenk - can feel for you - dd2 was in the parent/toddler toilet with me - you know the type - big toilet and little toilet side by side. Like you time of the month - changing a tampon to -

what is that mummy? does it go on your undies? why does it go there? why are you putting that in your fanny?? oh dear - I am just mortified and told her we would discuss this later as it was not something we needed to talk about in public - cue her saying - whynot in public mummy??? and so on. So I told her I was not prepared to talk about it with her at the moment we would talk when we got home.

She just happens to do it in a loud voice so that any mothers feeding babies in the other part of the family room are hearing all this!!

On the subject of weeing - we had my friend and her two boys come and visit us - cue them weeing before a long trip home - instead of giving them privacy - the two older dds trundle into the hallway to watch the two lads ( 5 and 3) sharing the toilet weeing standing up. That set off another round of questions from dd2 who then told dh that night that boys stand up and wee - why daddy?? Poor dh did not know where to go with that.

sorry pressed post before I finished - it is just part of having children who are learning about the world around them and what people do.

So not only is she doing fab on the language front - sentences etc.... she is just being nt for want of a better term.

ds1 bottom sniffs (and everywhere else sniffs, some more embarrasing than others). Unfortunately smell is I think a bit part of the way he makes sense of the world so its very hard to stop. I just tend to try to redirect. (and also try not to laugh- that's the hard bit!)

He always smells me when I come in for example.

I remember when we had roofers working on a hot day wearing leather gloves. When they took their gloves off he grabbed their hands and smelled them very carefully. They were warning him not to (very smelly).

Hah! DS1 has just noticed that I'm the only person in the house deficient in the willy department. He keeps telling me we need to buy a new one. It's a very sweet sentiment, since he obviously believes I'm missing out on something important, but I hope he doesn't remind me when we go shopping!

I had that one when J was about three, ouryve. On a crowded bus after we'd been out shopping, he announced loudly that he was going to save up all his pennies and take me to the willy shop and buy me one. Well, it raised a few smiles I guess.

I'm so glad he's kept his observations and suggestions to home, so far!