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Could my child be adhd/ aspergers please help.

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laughalot · 01/02/2008 14:22

Right my little boy is 3 will be 4 in july. I was very pleased today when I fetched him from nursery as he had got star of the week . When we were leaving the head of nursery said to me that he has had a excellent week but is very hyper. This had been mentioned to me previously when he started school in september they had a review about a month after and his teacher said that he suffers a bit socially and is very hyper and they are monitoring it. I said to the head today yes he is very hyper and she said that they have been using different styles with him this week and have had good results. She said he likes lots of praise. I said to her I am worried in case there is something more serious wrong with him and she replied if there is they will guide and help us. That to me makes me think that they think he may have a problem. It is very hard when you are speaking to the teacher and she is trying to watch the other children and talk to me at the same time. I admit he has challenging behaviour he seems to flip out sometimes in certain situations that he isnt usually in for example my dd had her 12 month review at the hv on monday my little boy got in the room and fliiped out he was jumping on the chairs, running around, he ran off on hv had to chase him he was being really hyper. I thought I would put a few thigs down what he is like and caould anyone advise if it rings alarm bells please. Can you be different degress of adhd and aspergers?

He:

Was slow at talking but can hold a conversations with you. He does make a certain amount of eye contact.
He sleeps through the night. He is potty trained
He eats a variety of foods but can be very picky. Dosent have loads of sweets.
He likes loads of praise.
He can concentrate for a limited period he would sit and watch a cartoon the whole way through though.
He is very hyperactive and very independant he likes to do things for himself.
He is rough with his friends at times and can push children out of his way however school have never mentioned that he has hit/ bitten anyone.
He likes routine he isnt overally upset if his routine is changed for example if we go on holiday ect .
He does like to complete things and can be obsessed with doing things a certain way like lining his cars up or walking round the class a certain way.
He goes very hyper at childrens parties to the point where I decline going sometimes in the fear he will start going loopy.
He dosent seem to play alot with friends he is a outgoing child not shy but dosent seem to know how to play properly yet. He does copy what alot of children do for example when we were at the park the other day a little girl fell over and he ran to where she fell and did exactly what she did.
His granny has him on a thursday when I work and he can be as good as gold for her.

I just feel like my head is spinning do I just have a active child who needs to have more discipline or may there be a problem. Either way I love him with all my heart he is my boy and nothing is going to change him but maybe he just needs a little help.

Thanks everyone for reading my mammoth post.

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laughalot · 01/02/2008 15:01

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Peachy · 01/02/2008 15:07

Hiya

like the otehrs have just got to pop and do a school run but didn't want you to feel ignored

first impressions are that he may be AS, BUT if so not severe and not for sure.... have you looked on the national autistic society page at the triad of impairment? great starting place I find. Pesonally i would ask GP for an appointment, but mroe to rule out rather than rule in, iyswim.

And maybe review his diet? Look at additives, sugar, aspartame, salycylates (last oen in fruit and veg so easy to miss)

'Either way I love him with all my heart he is my boy and nothing is going to change him '

Exactly, and there's the important bit: IF he has any Sn he's still the same kid and you will love exactly the same. But answers can help, and its always worth asking I think.

laughalot · 01/02/2008 15:09

Thankyou peachy

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laughalot · 01/02/2008 15:11

Was also meant to put on that message what is AS? I sound stupid dont I.

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laughalot · 01/02/2008 15:13

Aspergers for a guess just worked it out.

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Peachy · 01/02/2008 15:44

OOps yes sorry

laughalot · 01/02/2008 15:46

Can you have different degrees of it like mild or very severe. Im so sorry for asking daft questions.

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Peachy · 01/02/2008 15:52

Yes- in that autism itse;f is a very long spectrum, so you get Aspergers on one end, HFA (high functioning autism- language problems but normal IQ) further along, then full autism (lower IQ0 after that.

AS is with no langauge problems, basically.
Then it manifests differently in different kids- so whilst ds1 is much more able than ds3, (ds3 being very low verbal skills, detached, still incontinent etc), he is ahrder to care for as he is extremely aggressive sometimes.

In many ways autism defines only the symptoms, not the child- if you see what I mean?

Mumfun · 01/02/2008 17:05

it is hard to tell from a message but he sounds very lively but pretty normal has he colours etc in his diet. MY Ds nursery have told me that he very defintely reacts to sugar and is worse behaved after eating that.

flyingmum · 01/02/2008 17:41

He sounds very like a friend of mine's little boy who was incredibly hyper at the same age. He was later diagnosed as Aspergers but he did have speech delay as well. Some of the things you mention sound like my chap (Aspie plus other things) particularly about being as good as gold for granny! I would say having to do things in a certain way does ring a bell. Also, mine will do big change with no trouble at all. We've woken him up at 5.00 am and told him to get up and get dressed and taken him on a surprise holiday and he was thrilled. Small change however when younger was horrendous so school activities changing without warning really set him going. However, there are shades of grey between things and it is common for Aspies to have other conditions as well, one of them being ADHD. I would ask the nursery to get the county ED psych to come and observe him. Whatever it is it is obviously dealable with and if he gets put on the lists now then it will smooth transition for him when he goes to school.

All the best.

bubblepop · 01/02/2008 21:58

hiya, from your post and what you have said, i would'nt be overly concerned.

ladygrinningsoul · 02/02/2008 16:06

Hi there, I have a son of 4.3 who has HFA (high functioning autism) and a lot of that does ring bells with me. But my son's DX was largely because of his speech delay. There are many people who have some autistic traits without actually being considered to be on the spectrum and your boy could be one of those. What is his imaginative play like?

laughalot · 02/02/2008 19:26

It has got better since nursery but prior to that imaginitve play dident really exsist.

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