Pant wetting how do you handle it?

[magso]

I know this is a very little thing but its causing trouble in our house between dh and I and has made no progress in years now.!
Ds age 8 LD/asd forgets to use the loo, and is forever having accidents. Now he hates damp clothes so he changes them, often forgeting to use the loo first - he runs to the draw for dry clothes not the bathroom. Five minutes later it happens again. Over each holiday we get on top of it (because I can remind/ limit trousers! after 3 wet pairs its pjs only and no going out!)but he cannot seem to internalise the rule ' use loo then change wet pants!' - or use the loo as soon as you need it'. I have tried stickers and rewards - they work for a while or when I am with him but not after.
My dh thinks Im too soft/not taught him properly but I didnt want to make a huge issue out of it. Putting ds in pjs used to help -they are easier and a reasonable deterant in day time! Ds likes to be in control so marching him to the loo can act as a deterrant too.
What advise please?

We had a similar issue with DD (mainly at school) She is younger than your DS (5), But its was a social story that worked (most of the time LOL) with her. Maybe something similar would also work for your DS.

School also added toilet trips into her visual timetable (ie toilet b4 morning break, b4 maths ect) So far she has not wet her pants since before xmas (at school) so its worked really well for her.

HTH

Ds1 (7yrs and ASD) still has accidents every evening. Part of it is that he doesn't always realise that he needs to go but mostly he just forgets, particularly if he's busy doing something else.

The only thing that seems to work for ds1 is to tell him he has to go. At least once an hour I tell him to go whether he thinks he needs it or not. Tbh it's a complete PITA so I'd be interested in other ideas too.

Thanks twocutedarlings and coppertop, ( and sorry for the spelling ).I will try social stories, and going back to the demands to use the loo.- (he does not respond to polite reminders!). What do you include in you social story 2cd? Like your ds ct, Ds is worse in the evenings and I may have complicated it by taking him out of nappies at night. Ds wants to go for a sleepover at his cousins so was very keen to try!So social stories may help at night as well. We have made some limited progress, but even if he wakes up dry, unless I march him straight to the loo an accident occurs, because he just doesn't seem to notice his need! Last year when he was in MS he didn't notice the wet pants (the other kids called him smellie!) so I suppose the aversion to wet pants is at least a little progress!

The social story was used at school with DD, they did a very simple one with pictures of DD putting her hand up to ask to go to the toliet, picture of her washing her hands afterwards and more importantly for her, was a picture of her going straight back to the classroom.

It was mainly the way that school included a toilet vistits into her visual timetable that helped tbh, but it worked really well incorporated with the social story. Before this DD had been having accident most days, somedays more than once. So far since the start of this year she hasnt had an accident yet!!

Well done 2ct dd! I will speak to his teacher - ds is now in MLD school so there is a class visual timetable. I have been working on handwashing with pictures over the basins - visitors must really wonder-(wet hand/ soap/ rub/rinse/tap) perhaps I need a toileting sequence stuck to the tv control/ toybox lid meaning first use the loo! If there was room I,d put his pant drawer in the loo!There are so many things that slide back as soon as reinforcement is relaxed! I sometimes wonder if hell ever be reliably dry. At least the accidents are smaller now suggesting he has good control!

Do you think his pants would fit in bag stuffer tube hung on the back of teh loo door? Or would that be a weird too far?

Good thinking Unis, if he was forced to visit the bathroom for dry undies he might start to remember the loo! I have a suitable hanging shelfthing! What the heck our house looks very odd already - it just might help!