I want to get him out of that damn school.

[kaz33]

DS1 is in year 2, he is on the Aspergers spectrum somewhere.

They put so much pressure on them in year 2 and his teacher is a bit of a dragon, very tough on behaviour and doing what you are told.

He started off year 2 in good form, but then his behaviour started to deteroriate at home, no obvious reason at all. Then at parents evening at the end of the autumn term got told my son was a thug . Managed to smooth it over and she took the pressure off him. Calmed things down over the christmas holidays.

Sent him back to school in January and it is all starting to unravel again, he isn't eating very well, more violent, getting into trouble in the playground again. He might as well have victim written on his forehead.

The school that he starts in September is by all accounts an excellent school with a much different ethos. At the moment I just want to get him out, home educate him or send him to a private prep for the rest of the academic year.

The pressure is going to get worse not easier. AAAAAAAgh

They called him a thug?

What are the school doing to help your son? Does he have any extra help? He sounds really unhappy, what do you think? What's he doing to get in trouble?

I think my instinct would be the same as yours and want to pull him out but you need to think about how that also might affect him. For example, would he cope going back to a school environment?

Well I am helping out in his class tommorow so will sound out his teacher. I decided to keep the enemy close as I really don't trust her

DH just asked him how school was and he said fine, but not sure if I believe him. After all I seem to remember from being a kid that you tell your parents what you think they want to hear. I admit that he can be a bit of a handful but don't know if I am overreacting.

He isn't on their official radar as a kid with issues as we have done things privately to try and help him. Maybe in retrospect that was a mistake.

Oh I think you're completely right about the enemy. It's good to know exactly what's going on and how.

If he is on the autistic spectrum and the school knew I think it could only help. It's possible he's simply behaving inappropriately which is common with asd. Are the school aware you've had assessments?