Please tell me it gets better

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I really am at the end of my tether with my dd10. I'm so fed up with the constant hitting and hurting me, the moaning when things don't go her way, the internet was down this morning and she was shouting and bawling at me to fix it or else, I'm actually scared of her and feel like a battered wife. School runs are hell on earth, she screams the house down and refuses to get ready. We are late every day. She refuses to brush her teeth so god knows what state those are in. I've just lost my mum and am feeling incredibly low and miserable. Any light at the end of the tunnel ??

Do you have any support? Does DD have an EHCP? Are the school providing any support? Does DD have SALT and OT input? Have you asked for social care assessments?

My DD used to be like this. Millions of assessments later turns out she was massively anxious because of a variety of impairments. Anxiety is often expressed as hitting and frustration so it seems it might be worth getting an appointment at the GP to start the process. There is a book called The Explosive Child that explains about this kind of thing. It is very helpful. Get help. Ask the school for help, ask the GP, start researching as much as you can to help her with her anxiety. Also find other SEN mums or groups for your own support. I totally understand what you are going through but with help it can get better.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Your DD sounds a lot like my DS who is 9. Does she get much support at school? My DS's behaviour is usually at its worse on school day mornings and when we get in from school. He has an EHCP and 1:1 full time support but school is still overwhelming for him. He is starting sensory integration therapy at school today and I am really hoping that helps. Have you had any input from an occupational therapist?