DS (12) has autism. He started secondary school in September and has run into issues with one child who has been bullying him (making fun of his stimming, etc).
The school have been very on top of the bullying. The two children have been told to keep away from each other. DS has started to physically retaliate when the other child approaches him.
Today I got a call from his form tutor, who said that DS started shouting at the child at the bus stop after school. DS flatly denies this. He acknowledges the other child was there, the child said nothing, and he said nothing.
We have asked for the school to investigate, if there are any witnesses. There is usually a member of staff at the bus stop and DS says other children were there. The impression we got from the school, though, is that they're confident that the other child is telling the truth and DS is lying.
DS doesn't really lie. He's not great at it. But he does seem to completely "forget" his behaviour when he is highly stressed (which he was yesterday, due to another unrelated incident). He seems to completely revise his memory of events to reflect how he wishes he had behaved, rather than how he actually did behave.
Does anyone else experience revisionism with their children? I don't know how to tackle it. I don't know if it's an autism thing (most stuff seems to be about how ASD kids don't lie), a DS thing, something else.