When they grow up

[Twigglett1]

Honestly, what's your plan?

Our little children who struggle to function as tiny 3-10 year olds in a school are one day meant to go out in to that huge world and fend for themselves.

The thought scares the out of me.

Do we just let them live with us till we die?
Should we fight for residential homes now so they can live there?
What happens when we die, who looks after them then?

Everything that's happened so far makes me sure that the state feels my child should rot in the gutter so I know I can't count on it to be there.

How old is your dc?

I think the reality is that those that are able to be independent will still need a higher level of support and others will need to stay with us for a longer period.

Things can change and there are so many unknowns, but I think a plan for all the things they need to know, and we need to teach them, is a good idea as well as a back up plan.

In the US you can take out insurance for future care needs, I don’t know if you can here.

Even if DC continue to live with you you should plan for what happens when you are no longer here as this will be easier to plan before it is actually necessary, including planning your will and any potential Trusts accordingly.

so far the plan is for our son to live with us but look into residential when he’s in his 20s.

im hoping I don’t die young and can look over him til the day I die but I plan to leave everything to his sister (who’s NT) with the understanding she watches over him. (Just checking in on him, picking up things he needs if possible).

thank god I had him early 20s! I keep myself healthy so I can hopefully live as long as possible to take care of him.

My plan is to look at residential options for my son at 18, but my son has severe needs and is non verbal.
it has and will be difficult to keep him at home for the next 3 years as it is.
A Deputyship for his welfare and health when he turns 18- this has to be done by a solicitor.