I've probably posted this here before, but can't find it

[saltire]

How do i go about getting DS2 assessed for Dyslexia/ADD? I'm not entirely sure he has it, but would rather get him assessed to check.
DH thinks it's just becasue he's a "dreamer who doesn't concentrate or listen". Everything is a battle, I have no end of hassle with him and his brother arguing all the feckin time, and on top of that I have DS2 apparently not paying the slightest bit of attention to what I'm saying. I tell him repeatedly things like Get your shoes on, get your jumper on, over and over before it finally seems to sink in. Some mornings I dress him becasue he dithers about so much. Everything is "in a minute" "let me jsut do this" or ignoring me completley. Today for example. he has finally got dressed after being upstairs for 45 minutes. with me checking every 5 saying right now put your trousers on, now put your socks on. DH again says that it's because DS2 wants my attention 8all* the time and gets annoyed if DS1 is getting any. DS1 was ill last Friday night and I got him some medicine and fussed aound getting him into bed early and DS2 said "He's not ill, he jsut wants you, you don't fuss around me like that".
He seems to be very a clingy child at times as welll.

I imagine you start with your GP and ask for a refferal to a developmental psychiatrist. How old is he?

How old is Ds2 Saltire?

He has just turned 8, about 2 weeks ago

How is he doing at school- have school any concerns? You may need to speeak to the SENCO at school. If there are concerns, then the next step would I think be to see the GP for a referral to a developmental paediatrician - in some areas this may be different. Also if there are concerns at school - has he seen the educational phychologist attached to the school?

The school say there are no concerns with regards to his work. his writing is messy, but understandable, and his reading is great. however, the family support worker at the school came round becasue we ahve been having huge problems with their behaviour - in different ways- and she did suggest that Ds2 was "anxious and depressed". He often frogets his homework, and fi eh does bring it home, makes every excuse going not to do, writes as little as possible etc.
I know they are both struggling with a different education system, not liking here, the fact that I'm ill and unhappy is probably rubbing off ont ehm as well. i think I'm wanting someone to say there's nothing worng, as opposed to someone saying there is. Does that make sense?
I need to go now as off to wrok but will be back later

What you say does make sense! I'm not an expert - just a Mum! But I would trust your own instincts! Was all well before you moved (few concerns at school or home regarding excessive dreamy behaviour etc). ADD is a developmental condition so would have been present all along. However if he is struggling to cope with the new education system then he may to too young to say so directly in words. I hope wiser mums come soon!