Thanks for the replies.
@foxy86 yes I think he’d understand. He’s a very bright boy, high achieving at school. My main worry is that he’d take it quite badly. He has low self esteem and doesn’t take kindly to anything he might perceive as criticism, no matter how much of a positive spin we put on it. Thanks for the website recommendation, I’ll take a look.
@EilonwyWithRedGoldHair lots of the things he does are quite minor, and this will sound awful, but can be really difficult (irritating) to live with. He makes a lot of odd noises (clucking/screeching), repeats himself a lot, talks excessively and only about his chosen subject of interest (hyperfocus?), is very lively and always jumping around, standing on his head, touches things you tell him not to and doesn’t seem to see danger. He’s also an extremely picky eater. And he can get very angry when upset and will cry/throw things/headbutt the floor which is getting harder to manage as he gets older, bigger & physically stronger.
@LightTripper thanks for the book recommendation I’ll look it up. I’m not sure how self aware he is of the things he does. We’re forever telling him to stop doing x/y/z so you’d think he’d know.
I know we need to bite the bullet & have the conversation but I feel scared at how he will respond and whether school will even take us seriously.
We’ve approached his GP and primary school in the past. GP wanted to wait & see. Primary said they couldn’t see what we see at home so we’ve never had the backing of school to pursue it further. Then Covid followed by a move to secondary. He’s a model student in school, high achieving, never disruptive, has lots of friends, so I still feel even now that we’ll be laughed at, that they’ll just tell us it’s bad parenting on our part.