Our DD just turned 5 not long ago, is a chewer/biter of different kinds of materials, her own nails, etc. Also, slower with development with her gross motor skills (which the school have also noted this in her school report). She doesn't concentrate very well and is often in a world of her own, although this has started to improve and her teacher was really impressed at the change with school work. However, we've noticed that it's still not great at home. The school haven't noted any concerns otherwise and put the chewing down to just a childhood thing, so has the local children's nurse.
To put it into context, DH has dyspraxia and came home a few weeks back after some training re ADHD and said he thought he had it. I've thought it about him for a while but he is now convinced it's something that's been missed as a child. His parents acknowledge he was different and he was a real challenge, with lots of energy which was hard. They've mentioned before that they'd got him tested for things as a child but not sure what.
I have some ADHD traits that I picked up on as a teenager but my DM dismissed these. As I've got older, they've felt a bit more obvious to me but others wouldn't necessarily pick up on it other than I can be a bit scatty and forgetful at times. I've got some coping mechanisms in place now.
DH has said to me today that he felt DD wasn't NT. I've also thought this for a while but can't work out if it's our clouded view or whether she genuinely could be.
When did you start exploring your child may not be NT and how do you start navigating conversations around this?