I honestly don't know if this is even the right place to post this.
I'm going to try to keep this as unbiased as possible.
Child is 9 year old boy, has suspected autism, no official diagnosis, but is enrolled in an enhanced learning class full time.
Parent is a single parent in a long distance relationship with Partner for almost a year.
During this year child has had 2 extreme meltdowns, screaming, hitting parent, being destructive and violent.
partner brought up some concerns-
child walks into the bedroom of parent in the morning, while parent and partner are on video call, found to be weird and socially unacceptable behaviour. child lay down in the bed, covering the camera, and looking back at it a few times.
If child has an extreme meltdown when partner is with parent then partner will not know how to react, obviously wont be happy about anyone hurting parent
partner told parent that they will not be happy or comfortable living in the same house as child or being around child unless his behaviour can be changed.
So here are the questions
How should this situation be handled?
What should parent do?
What should partner do?
How can we keep this relationship together. Please help.