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Feeling sad after Ed. Psych assessment......

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theheadgirl · 16/01/2008 16:29

...DD3 was seen today, her teachers suggested the assessment in the autumn term, cos over the summer she started hitting and throwing things. It was always done with a smile, as though she was trying to communicate or get your attention. Somtimes just out of sheer boisterousness, she would let out a joyful yell as she did it. For those of you who don't know DD3 is 7, has Downs, and at age 3 was diagnosed with ASD. She goes to a school for SLD.
Well the first words the ed. pysch. said was how she was struck by the gap between DD3 and her class mates (bearing in mind they all have SLD and many ASD) She said it was like watching a baby trying to cope in a reception class. This is undoubtably true, I always say she's 1-2 years in her developmental stage, but just made me so sad to hear it, and worried for the future. The plan is to give her more 1 to 1 time, if funding allows, with perhaps more PE sessions, as she is very physical. Also a more appropriate chair with a seat belt for times when she can't just career around causing havoc, cos the one she's in, she can rock, with risk of it falling over. I agree that she needs a chair, but to see it upset me too, its a big bulky, obviously "disabled" thing, not like the toddler chair she's currently in.
I'm just fed up and need to offload. Not sure if anything I'm typing makes much sense

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pageturner · 16/01/2008 16:30

No advice but for you. I hope someone more helpful comes along soon.

aquariusmum · 16/01/2008 16:36

I know how you feel THG - my DS had a bad day at school too and it just sends me right down. When he has a good day, I feel I can cope with anything; when the news from school is bad, I just feel hopeless. It is so hard. I really feel for you, and those Ed Psychs are not exactly the most tactful of people. I suppose it is their job, but I wonder if they would be different if they themselves had experienced being mum to an SEN child. My DS is ASD, 4 years old, and kicked out today, hitting the teacher (who is already pretty much out to get rid of him I reckon, therefore he just gave her more fodder). It's times like this I wish I still smoked! Big hug to you, from someone who knows how you feel!

flyingmum · 16/01/2008 17:59

Sending you hugs. It's yuck when you get it slapped into your face like this. I seem to get on an even keel, think, wow he's really making progress and doing so well and his future is looking a bit brighter and a therapist will give that look (you know the one - the head cocked to one side) and say 'well he IS very complex isn't he' and then I feel crap again.

Wine tonight perhaps?

theheadgirl · 16/01/2008 18:35

Thank you everyone! I actually indulged in retail therapy straight after the appointment
Partly it was a positive meeting, and I always believe we can't help her unless we're realistic about her needs, but you can't help wishing things were different sometimes..........

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