Comment made by dd - heartbreaking:(

[blossomhill]

As you probably all know I have been having a really hard time with dd and everything.
Anyway on Saturday after playing up for the 100th time that day she got really upset when I told her not to do what she was doing. She then started crying her eyes out and said "mummy I have got something wrong with me". "Mummy I am different". It got me right in the chest I felt gutted and started crying and dd was like "cry mummy and I'll cry and cuddle me"
I just feel so sad that she is beginning to realise that she has special needs and the awful thing is that she is not able to understand enough for me to explain it to her. Why is it so hard?????

Aaaw BH it is a difficult time as you say when they are old enough to know that they feel different but not old enough to understand why. I always said dd was 'special' but she came to realise that special mean't different in some way and it was hard to get past that.

Big hugs to you and little blossom.

Oh Blossom, lots of hugs to you and your dd.

Blossom???? You OK honey?
I tried to CAT you but couldn't get through.
I spoke to my friend whose daughter asked why she was different. She said she explained that everybody is different and that everybody finds certain things harder to learn than others. Each of us has special skills and needs help with other things. She went through all the reason why her daughter is special and why it's good to be different (her daughter can smell things, others can't, and has a very good memory etc). That we're all different and it's good to stand out from the crowd
I know they're obviously very different girls but HTH

Oh Blossom - feel for you . Big Hugs. Its good to cry.

Hi Bloss - I know how you feel hon, my ds suddenly cried in the car one day saying "there's something wrong with me, isn't there?" It came from no where as we were having quite a nice discussion at the time.

I was in shock and wildly trying to think - is he old enough for me to explain (nearly 7) that he has AS and ADHD? In the end I explained that he was very special and that everyone was different and then went on to people in wheelchairs. At about the same time as this, my ds had been fascinated by wheelchairs and staring and pointing. I explained the difference in people by talking about the wheelchairs and he seemed to understand that everyone was different and unique(or the world would be a very boring place).

In the words of Luke Jackson, "to those of you who feel that you don't belong, just remember that different is cool".
I loved Anorak's explanation of DS Thomcat! x

Blossom??? You OK????

Chocol, sounds like you handled it brilliantly ...

Thanks everyone for your kind messages, it means a lot There has been some lovely advice and sorry I haven't replied personally to each reply. I have read every single one and appreciate you all sharing your experiences with me
Had a terrible couple of weeks and everything has basically got on top. Have seen gp and thankfully looks like things are moving forward.
Jakbrown - I have CAT you so hopefully you will get it today!
I am physically and mentally drained. I think the best way to describe this week is that I have felt very fragile but am feeling slightly better today. Again thanks you are all very sweet! Blossomhillxxx

Bh, I understand exactly how you feel. I went through the same thing about a year ago, when ds2 looked up at me and said "i can't walk", then sobbed himself to sleep. Today he told me he can't get married (!) because he can't stand.

Hugs to you xx

lou that is so sad. must be heartbreaking. its amazing what goes through their wee heads at times

Oh Lou, that's so sad!

Lou, it is heartbreaking isn't it? Ds sounds like such a lovely little boy. It's just so hard isn't it when you want to make it all better for them and you can't!
Hugs to you too.xxx
Just incase you didn't see my other message have a GREAT holiday.

Lou, bless him, what a sweetie.

Aaaaw big hugs to little Lou.