My eldest son (aged 6) has all the symptoms of ADHD, which wouldn't surpise me as I was diagnosed as hyperactive when I was a kid. We are in the process of getting him formally assessed.
My question is really about the school. They raised the issue of his behaviour with us at the beginning of year 1, and have put in place a plan to help manage him. He sits separately from the other kids, so that he doesn't accidentally hit them when he's throwing his arms or legs around, or touch them because he doesn't always remember that it isn't ok to touch other people without consent. He gets "learning breaks" that allow him to run around outside every so often, to help him concentrate. He gets rewards for doing "good sitting" etc. to motivate him. Which is all good, and I appreciate how engaged they are being. But...
I worry that my child is being "marked" as different, both to himself, and (more worryingly) to his peers. I don't want him to be seen as different or less than. He definitely has his challenges, but he is also a lovely, caring, intelligent boy, who is a good friend and brother and a joy to have in our lives.
There was an incident today, which has upset me a lot. Another child accused my son of pushing him (resulting in him hitting his head). Two other children said they saw my son do it. But my son denies it completely, and I've never really known him to lie. I don't know what to believe. But I also resent that the school kept me and the other child's mother behind at pick up to discuss it. She obviously looked at me like I'm the mother of the devil and could barely say a word to me she was so angry. I apologised, obviously, but in all honesty I don't even know if it really happened, and worry that my son is being painted as an aggressor when that's not at all who he is.
It's so hard, just knowing that your kid isn't like everyone else. Anyway, that's enough from me. I'd appreciate any thoughts/advice you might have.