Exhausted and overwhelmed brained mum of 3 boys aged 6,6&5. I’m having 2 of them tested for additional needs at schools request: possibly and most obvious is adhd for both. I’m struggling to get my head around it all tbh. I don’t understand neurodiversity, sensory seeking etc and to be hit with the fact both my seemingly ( to me they are fine) fine boys are possibly not ok has hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m completely overwhelmed with trying to educate myself on it and how to parent them best so they aren’t growing up damaged or with mental health issues. With that aside their behaviour is off the scale sometimes. I have no idea if this is normal kid/boy behaviour ( been told for the last 6 years that it is from family and friends) or if it’s caused by the fact they are potentially neurodiverse. When they go off on one it generally involves lots of manic behaviours.. starts off with them play fighting or pushing shoving, throwing stuff at each other. Anything to get a reaction really, then it usually escalates to screaming, high pitched hysteria, when I try to intervene they get worse and laugh at me, making silly noises, high pitched screaming, run about the house or shop etc. there is 3 of them so at that point I give up on trying to stop it.. as it’s pointless. I can’t remove/distract or time out 3 manic children on my own. I feel so broken( I’m aware this is a poor me situation right now cos that’s how I’m feeling) I literally have no control over my children. These situations happen a few times a day… no reasoning with it. We spent the day out at park playing yesterday, they were well exercised and the min we sat down at dinner ( at my mums house) they started the boisterous manic behaviour throwing food, ignoring both my mum and me telling them to stop/warnings etc. they ran away from me when i tried to separate them. My mum doesn’t get adhd at all, so I’m pretty overloaded with the judgement that spending the past few days with her brought and the it’s your fault they act like this, why do you allow this? Why don’t you stop them etc. I’m just wondering how do you know if the screaming/hyper l state of mind is just like my mum says bad behaviour or if it’s sensory seeking and triggering each other’s sensory needs?? It’s like they thrive or get a kick off it.. I can see it on their eyes they are getting High off winding each other up. We speak about it afterwards often but it still doesn’t have any affect of minimising it. I can’t take them anywhere, my anxiety is through the roof when I need to even go into a shop with them.. it always happens when we are out our own house and somewhere public or that I require them not to act like ferrals.