Can't take ds and dd out together

[MagicalMystery11]

Currently going through the assessment process for ADHD with my 3 year old son. Does anyone else feel like you can't do the normal things other parents do?
For example, I can't take my son anywhere together with my 11 month daughter on my own, like the park. He needs one to one attention pretty much all the time when we're out as he could potentially be a risk to himself. I'd love to take them out together.
Anyone else?

[livpotter]

We had this for a long time. We ended up doing a lot of stuff at home unless DH was around or we could get someone else to help. You're not alone!

Ds is now 8 and dd is now 6 and I've been able to take them on my own to the park for about a year now. So it can get better.

[Sprogonthetyne]

I have an autistic 5yo DS and a 2yo DD and have the same problem. Short trips where DD can stay in the pushchair are OK but anywhere she would want to walk is out as I just can't give them both the level of supervision they'd need to keep everyone safe, and if DS bolts I can't leave DD alone while I catch him.

We go out with DH at the weekend and during school holidays will arrange to meet my mum somewhere midweek, I still do the bulk of the care but she will distract one while I sort the other. We also found one softplay that works for us, it's small enough I can see everywhere at once, fully contained, and always really quiet (in a leisure centre, would have probably gone out of buisness if it was private). This is one of the few places I can manage them both, and an absolute life saver on days where they have two much energy to stay at home.

Is there anywhere near you that might work as a 'safe' outing? even if you need to go a few times with another adult, before going alone once it's more familiar.

[LargeLegoHaul]

You could contact HomeStart. They can sometimes help provide a second pair of hands.

You could also look at social care assessments. A carer’s assessment for you and an assessment via the disabled children’s team for DS.