I'm really struggling with my daughter (11). She's been referred for ADHD/ASD assessment and I think she'll be diagnosed with inattentive ADHD as she has many traits (possibly ASD too). But I have no idea when the actual assessment will take place given the ridiculously long waiting lists.
My daughter can be very loving but she can also be incredibly hurtful in the way she talks to her dad and me. Today she was perfectly nice until she was asked to do something she didn't want to do. Long story short, she left the house with her dad screaming "crazy cow" at me. I've heard her use the F word with her sister. This is not a family where we swear at each other and I'm horrified at this behaviour. I know it will only get worse and it just upsets me so much. I don't know what "consequences" I can impose as I've already taken her electronics. I don't know what to do – she doesn't seem to care.
I feel so sad and so drained. I can be a very loving parent but when she is like this, it brings the worst out of me. I feel like I have failed as a parent.
Thanks for listening