is this classed as special needs

[jobekal]

i have posted on mumsnet before about my dd's development and also about how formal her nursery is.

I had decided i didn't want her to return to nursery next time, pasrtly because of unexplained bruises she gets there, partly because they seemed to be expecting too much of her and i wzs getting stressed about her development and started pushing her too much which upset her and so i decided i was doing more harm than good.

However, just before christmas i received a letter from the inclusion manager saying an audit had been carried out as is required every year in all schools in my city and they were concerned about literacy and had drawn up an IEP and referrerd her to School Action. I now worry that if i dont send her she will suffer although am not really sure she does have a problem, she just does less there than she does at home.

Is she officially classed as special needs now and if so, does that mean i should keep sending her to nursery, even if i choose a different one? All of them in my city seem to be quite formal about educating

Your child, you can choose whether she goes to nursery (or school come to that), SN or not.

lots of kids are on school action and it just means they need extra help, not a formal diagnosis or anything. If you're not happy with a nursery, I don't think it's going to harm her if you take her to another one that is more understanding. Good luck!

Your DD is at a nursery and they are concerned about her literacy ?

Have I got that right ?

Children at nursery should be learning through play - not doing formal literacy tasks. Surely, you should have been informed by her key worker as soon as they thought there was a problem! - not wait for a letter to be sent.
Move her, but 'vet' the nursery first and make sure they are on your wavelength.

I agree with the ??? about whether literacy should dominate play!

Pre-school/ nursery in my eyes should be about the children learning to feel secure when independent from thier care giver and it is to experiment through play. I know that the schools and nurseries have targets and these reflect thier popularity, but surely they have it all wrong in terms of a child's emotional development.
My friend decided to keep her child out of school until she was compulsory school age due to her neediness and immaturiy and was told that in order for her to be alongside her peers when in Year 1, she needed to be computer literate!!!

I rest my case, bonkers the whole system.

I truely beleive that you know what is best for your child once you have distangled your 'issues' as such and if you have these doubts then they should be listened too. You have to be confident and happy for your child and definately shouldn't feel pressure when you know it's wrong.

Good luck and you make sure you're not pressured too much!
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Is your dd going to nursery all day,every day?
Just that time to 'play' with my ds at home helped me to understand that his problems were real, and pushed me to get more help.
Nursery should be play, and child should be happy to be there!
I think they should have included you in any discussions leading to School Action IEP ??
I didn't change my ds' nursery, but still wish I had!
Good luck!

Having been on the comitte for my local preschool/playgroup, I know that there is an awful lot of pressure to have structured learning in the early years.

But - I would be shocked at a referral for school action just because of preschool literacy! How literate do they expect a preschooler to be?

as others have said, they should have only done this in consultaiton with you.

It does seem extreme to me, although ours is only a village group run by local parents, so perhaps our expectations are lower than those of prefessional educators.

Also there are various "standards" that nurseries are trying to achieve at the moment - and as you pay for your child to go there, being the best OFSTEDed nursery is going to attract more parents and perhaps allow them to put their fees up....

Sorry, thats not helpful, but I am very cynical about so called pre-school learning, literacy or what ever theyre calling it this week.

especially if it makes parents and children feel they are failing before theyve even entered school FFS!