I can't make a decision about moving house

[TheSoapyFrog]

Over the past 8 years I've gone from being a single woman with a good job and a nice apartment to a single mum in a council house. DS1 is disabled and I'm his full time carer.
I've made some really bad decisions, although I didn't realise at the time.
The last decision I made was to bid on the property we live in now. DS1 needed a bedroom of his own and we were lucky enough to get this house in an area I love.
Unfortunately I didn't really think about whether the house was suitable for my disabled son. It isn't. And we're struggling dreadfully in it. I've had OT here to assess once and there wasn't much they could do apart from lend us some aides. They're coming out again, but I'm not hopeful they will be able to help due to the odd shape and small size of the property.
I should add that I despise my neighbours and the feeling is mutual.

Ideally I would reapply to go back on the housing register or do a mutual exchange but the problem is that it means DS2 will have to move schools.
DS2 already had to change when we moved to the new house and he would be devastated to have to do so again. He loves his school and it's perfect for him.
DS2 has additional needs himself and he is aware that there have been times where I've had to put DS1's needs above his. He gets quite jealous of the attention DS2 gets as he requires 24/7 supervision and I have to deal with all of his personal care.
It doesn't feel fair for him to suffer yet again.

DS2 gets transport to his school for various reasons. I don't drive so I can't take him. There is no public transport that goes to his school (in a tiny village). Otherwise I would move and drive him there. I also need to be home to put DS1 on his bus and meet him at home time.

I feel stuck. I hate this house and despite all my best efforts, it just isn't right for us. I've isolated us as we're in a semi rural area with barely any public transport.
But if I move, it would be a huge setback for DS2 who has at least 3 more years left at his school.
Ideally I would learn to drive, but I wouldn't be able to afford to buy and run/maintain a car. DS1 receives low rate mobility although I hope. It will increase at renewal next year, so we don't qualify for a vehicle.

Everytime I think I've made a decision, I change my mind and I'm pissing myself off about it.

What would you do?

@TheSoapyFrog

Over the past 8 years I've gone from being a single woman with a good job and a nice apartment to a single mum in a council house. DS1 is disabled and I'm his full time carer. I've made some really bad decisions, although I didn't realise at the time. The last decision I made was to bid on the property we live in now. DS1 needed a bedroom of his own and we were lucky enough to get this house in an area I love. Unfortunately I didn't really think about whether the house was suitable for my disabled son. It isn't. And we're struggling dreadfully in it. I've had OT here to assess once and there wasn't much they could do apart from lend us some aides. They're coming out again, but I'm not hopeful they will be able to help due to the odd shape and small size of the property. I should add that I despise my neighbours and the feeling is mutual.

Ideally I would reapply to go back on the housing register or do a mutual exchange but the problem is that it means DS2 will have to move schools.
DS2 already had to change when we moved to the new house and he would be devastated to have to do so again. He loves his school and it's perfect for him.
DS2 has additional needs himself and he is aware that there have been times where I've had to put DS1's needs above his. He gets quite jealous of the attention DS2 gets as he requires 24/7 supervision and I have to deal with all of his personal care.
It doesn't feel fair for him to suffer yet again.

DS2 gets transport to his school for various reasons. I don't drive so I can't take him. There is no public transport that goes to his school (in a tiny village). Otherwise I would move and drive him there. I also need to be home to put DS1 on his bus and meet him at home time.

I feel stuck. I hate this house and despite all my best efforts, it just isn't right for us. I've isolated us as we're in a semi rural area with barely any public transport.
But if I move, it would be a huge setback for DS2 who has at least 3 more years left at his school.
Ideally I would learn to drive, but I wouldn't be able to afford to buy and run/maintain a car. DS1 receives low rate mobility although I hope. It will increase at renewal next year, so we don't qualify for a vehicle.

Everytime I think I've made a decision, I change my mind and I'm pissing myself off about it.

What would you do?

I would move .I had terrible neighbours too and it affected the whole family and we also moved. can you do a change of circumstances or check the criteria to see if your son qualifies for high mobility . You can try getting a carers grant to pay for driving lessons .I think they pay up to 300 .

Obtain a carer grant to pay for driving lessons.