i found this a bit .........well............odd AIBU?

[2shoes]

wnet to visit my dad and step mum on saturday. my db & sil were there along with sm distant rellie from oz. had a nice time. noticed a pic of a lttle girl on the side so asked who she was. was the cleaners tot. sm then told funny tale of what said tot gets up to.(one bit was how she plays on a thing that ds did when he was little)
today sm has rung in a panic. did she upset me? saying how she didn't mean to hurt me by talking about this tot and what said tot did. when dd can't do this stuff. i was
I made all the right noises but wtf did she have to ring up about it. so no one can talk about nt children? surely it would have been better if she just left it. ds reckons if i get like this when i am old he is going to shoot me.

I think I must be your sm - it's exactly the kind of thing I can imagine me doing

She is just being nutty 2shoes.. and borderline patronising I would have thought really. Expect she's convinced she rang for the right reasons and maybe she did. Just ignore it. People are odd.

BTW did you get my email about needing a new invite for TTR? I am shiny usually...

Sorry Huw Why would anyone apologise for talking about what a NT child can do, in the course of normal convo though? It's not the same as pointed shoving it into the face of a mum with an SN child and making unfair comparisons is it? We are still part of the "normal" world too!!

so that is who you are i was asking everyone lol
she is VERY patronising. god I talt to dd about the little tot down the road. dd also visits the ms/sn nursery attatched to her school she loves babies and tots.

No probs shiny .
I know what you're saying, but believe me, I am well versed in Getting It Wrong.

(shiney i sent an invite did you get it)

No

so NT toddlers are 'the subject that must not be mentioned'?
Gawds. I'll just get back to my ghetto.
I expect she didn't really think to be honest. But you can be unreasonable if you want. Its New Years Eve

No NMC, 2shoes doesn't think NT toddlers are a taboo subject.. she is balking at the fact that her SM clearly did, upon reflection!

thats what I meant

Oh sorry

i thought when she was apologising it was going to be about ds as he had a cough when we visited and she was a bit "off" about it. I nearly walked out but I love my daddy
my mil made a odd comment last christmas (she compared dd to a 4 year old. ds was not impressed) I know it is their age. but to ring up all upset about talking about a nt child is just weird.

but she doesn't know it was weird

because she only thought about it after you left

she thought that you might have perceived that she was banging on about this NT child

she thought it was best to call you up and double-check that you weren't offended because she hadn't thought about you being offended at the time

but after the fact is when the nuttiness slips in to be honest

maybe she thought by ignoring it you would get the hump, so she did the opposite only to result in you getting the hump

I think it was probably a little crass, but kind of understandable and I think you should forgive her bumbling