Struggling with my feelings

[lollipoprainbow]

I hate, hate, hate autism. Every morning my dd9 refuses to get ready for school because she hates the way she looks, her face, hair etc. Every single morning is hell, she won't get up and won't get dressed she won't eat her breakfast. I'm at the end of my tether. I come to work feeling terrible. I'm finding it hard not to be incredibly irritated with her but I know it isn't her fault. I feel like I don't love her. I feel like an awful mum.

I know where you are coming from. My son has Tourettes and adhd like behaviour. I love him entirely but some days when he can’t concentrate on anything I say to him, cannot stop moving around the room and has bad tics I feel like I’m in a pit, clawing at the edges trying to get out. You are not an awful mum, it’s flippin hard!! You are trying, but you can help feeling exhausted, frustrated and irritated. Sending you a big hug xx

@thank you @Justsaying22 yes it's bloody hard !

Sorry @lollipoprainbow I meant to say “cannot” help feeling exhausted etc. it is bloody hard xx

Totally hear you. You're not a bad parent, it's very very hard, and it's wearing knowing it will likely be the same struggle each morning.

Have you ever tried Collsborative problem solving approach from the Ross Greene book? For the mornings I mean.