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Googoodol · 15/01/2022 16:23

Hi wonder if anyone can give me advice. My now 5 year old son has always been a bit of a challenge ie tantrums etc but since he has started school I have begun to worry something is wrong. When he comes out of school I say hi are you okay and he shouts don’t talk to me mummy all the other kids seem so happy to see there parents also he is always been a fussy eater but it’s ridiculous now he only wants to eat a cheese wrap and cucumber i don’t no if it’s about texture because he will eat bananas and yogurts etc but no sauces. Also if I take him to a party he is fine while he is there but as soon as it’s over he screams don’t want to go home has a huge tantrum and I have to carry him out and he is the only kid that does it all the other parents stare at like I’m a bad mum . Also in shops when we are queuing he goes mad “don’t want to waiting mummy etc” or even if I stop the car at a red light he screams mummy go hurry up just go. He is so loving and loves cuddles but he has a tantrum over anything he whines about everything for example if he can’t find a toy or if I don’t have the right breakfast . I forgot his umbrella after school once and he sat in the floor screaming his in reception I just feel his to old to be acting like this and none of the other child do . School have told me he is behind he hates learning to write goes mad if he makes a mistake and says I can’t do it and will refuse and his concentration is bad . I have seen him play with children he is very touchy feely and often think he winds the kids up because he don’t leave them alone . I’m just confused is there something underlining . I have seen a doctor that just says his a boy his just immature I think it’s more than this . Everyday out he ruins. We can never go for a meal because he will scream in the restaurant don’t want to sit down . I’m just drained and so tired sorry probably made loads of spelling mistakes. Just need help.

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BlankTimes · 16/01/2022 01:42

School have told me he is behind he hates learning to write goes mad if he makes a mistake and says I can’t do it and will refuse and his concentration is bad

School already have concerns, ask SENCO to write a letter for you that you can take to your GP.

I have seen him play with children he is very touchy feely and often think he winds the kids up because he don’t leave them alone

That's a sensory processing difficulty. Read this and list anything else he does. www.falkirk.gov.uk/services/social-care/disabilities/docs/young-people/Making%20Sense%20of%20Sensory%20Behaviour.pdf?

Also make a list of things he does that other kids his age don't do like the ones that you've referred to in your post e.g. meltdowns at transitions, difficulty with queuing, likes routine and order, obvious overwhelm when leaving school, unable to sit in a restaurant for a short time (overwhelmed by the noise in there maybe?)

Take your lists aand SENCO's letter, see a different GP on your own with your lists and comments and ask for a referral for an assessment for your son. Many neurodiverse kids have an emotional age around two thirds of their chronological age so they do appear immature. Not all GPs are aware of pointers for neurodiversity.

Well done for spotting a lot of the signs, listen to your instincts and persevere if anyone tries to fob you off. Flowers

Googoodol · 16/01/2022 14:23

@BlankTimes thanks so much for the advice :)

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